The British newspaper The Times cites stories of frustrated employers whose new hires don't live up to their first impressions. What not to do when getting a new job? How to prove to the employer that he made the right choice?

Sissy

“A couple of weeks ago, a new employee suddenly showed up to work with his mom,” says Donna Miller, head of human resources for a car rental company. “We had to explain to him that it was he, and not his mother, who was hired by us.” The 22-year-old young man managed to get rid of excessive parental care and, according to Miller, now he does not have such difficulties. The HR specialist chalked it up to the "overprotective parent" phenomenon, but it's important to understand what is acceptable behavior in the workplace.

Racer

Avoid aggressive driving on your first trip to work - you never know whose car you might "cut". “I heard a story about a guy who was cut off by some rude man while on his way to work and made an obscene gesture,” says Jonathan Rose, WH Marks Stattin lead manager in charge of recruiting new employees in the accounting department and finance. Quite a common event for rush hour, but it turned out that the reckless racer was in a hurry to be in time for the beginning of his first day of work, and his immediate supervisor turned out to be the victim of his rudeness. Not the best start to a career.

Mistake came out

Jackie Maynard, Recruiting Business Partner at Mouchel, recounts an amusing story from her former job. At 9 o'clock in the morning, a guy came into the waiting room and told the secretary that today was his first day of work. The secretary did not know anything about the new employee, all the managers who conducted the interviews were busy, and the manager was not in place. In order not to seem like an unprofessional worker, the secretary offered the guy a cup of coffee.

It took about an hour until we managed to contact the manager, who was extremely surprised by the appearance of a new employee, since none were planned for that day. It turned out that the newcomer ended up in the wrong office, in fact, he needed to go to the campaign, which was located two floors above. The embarrassment was also unpleasant because the guy was more than an hour late for his new job. The lesson to be learned from this story is to carefully read the location instructions for your new job and remember that your first day on the job may not start at all where you were interviewed.

special breakfast

Newcomers to Enterprise who are about to take an induction course often stay at a hotel, which can cause problems. “Nine new hires were supposed to show up in the lobby at 7:45 am,” Miller continues. But only five showed up. The recruiter went looking for it and found it “missing” over a leisurely breakfast in a restaurant.” The inauguration has to happen no matter how good the croissants are.

Judgment Day

Employers are particularly stressed by the situation when new employees begin to constantly compare their new workplace with their old job. Jackie Maynard advises to refrain from remarks like "This is how they used to do it at my old job." “Now you work in a design organization and it is unlikely that anyone is interested in what and how you did when you worked at the ice cream factory,” Jackie warns. For sure, everything will be a little different, and it will take some time until you get used to it. “There are a couple of cases in my practice where people just don't show up the next day,” Jonathan Rose adds, advising to be more open to change.

Beaver, breathe!

Relax. “No one expects you to perform on your first day at a new job,” Maynard says. - Do not take on an unbearable burden. It usually takes up to three months before everything that happens in a new company more or less fits in your head. Miller, in turn, advises not to force things, let everything take its course. No need to show excessive initiative, which can scare away new colleagues from you.

Why

It is perfectly acceptable to ask questions about the company's operations, but when asking them, think about the impression they might leave. Here are some of the most inappropriate questions new hires have on their first day on the job: “Why is the notice period for voluntary termination so long?” “How fast can I get promoted?” The “best” question is, without a doubt, “How much is my cash sickness benefit?” Recruitment specialists recommend not asking the employer questions that will cast doubt on your interest in the job.

A well-known American business coach and entrepreneur Katie Caprino told about what not to do when building a career based on her experience and the mistakes she once made.

My 18 years of experience in publishing and marketing (in terms of career building) seemed to be quite successful. But if you look at it from the inside, as they say, from the inside, you will find many pitfalls. I rose to the level of a company vice president, oversaw multi-million dollar budgets, and managed global initiatives. However, throughout my career, I have had to deal with the agonizing experiences of gender discrimination, sexual harassment, the inability to balance work and family life, chronic illness and exhaustion, sabotage and betrayal by colleagues, and a constant, agonizing feeling that I was meant to be. for a completely different job (but I just couldn't figure out what it was).

And I made a number of serious mistakes. I did the right thing at key points, but my missteps and blunders were legendary (or so it seemed to me). Looking back over my 30 years of work experience and the experience of hundreds of people I coach, teach and mentor, I want to bring to your attention five of the worst mistakes that can lead to the most negative, destructive and irreversible consequences in your career and professional life.

Here are 5 things you should never do at work:

1. Lose your temper, speak angrily and irritably, act out of a sense of revenge

Most people spend most of their time at work, so it is quite natural and predictable that here, in the workplace, we experience a full range of feelings and emotions. I advocate total dedication to my work and being as sincere, honest and forthright at work as possible. Along with this, I have repeatedly observed the destructive power that arises from losing control of my emotions, due to the manifestation of an overreacting or reckless desire to chop off the shoulder, caused by rage or desperation.

If you act impulsively, recklessly and recklessly at work, you are likely to lose a lot more than your own self-respect.

For example, when I was in my early twenties, I yelled obscenities at the top of my voice at my boss when I felt he was trying to hit on me. And I did it in front of the entire office. He had no choice but to fire me. Luckily, I had another job offer ready, so I didn't get hurt too badly.

For a fraction of a second, when I yelled at him, a fantastic feeling came over me. But it soon gave way to shock and shame at the fact that I was able to get out of control, and it was these feelings that accompanied me for a much longer time. I vowed to myself never to lose my temper again, to lash out at people in anger, or to play rage. If you act impulsively, recklessly and recklessly at work, you are likely to lose a lot more than your own self-respect.

2. Talking nasty things about your colleagues behind their backs

I am amazed at how many people today find it perfectly acceptable to ridicule, vilify, or covertly harm their colleagues, co-workers, and even their friends. Previously, I also sinned with this - I spoke behind someone's back if I felt that this someone was behaving inappropriately, meanly or unprofessionally. I later learned (in psychotherapy training) that this is called triangulation, or bringing in a third party to discuss what is causing you anxiety or upset, rather than addressing the issue directly with the participant in the conflict.

Why are we doing this? Because we do not have the courage and fortitude to solve the problem directly, or we feel that even if we try to do something, nothing will come of it. By talking about the problem, we thus relieve nervous tension, but at the same time we do nothing to solve it.

Substituting people and discussing their actions behind their backs, you will only compromise and humiliate yourself, and in the end you will be rewarded according to your deserts.

Someone considers this gossip (gossip, by the way, is another item that cannot be done in the workplace). But talking nasty things about your co-workers is a special pattern of negative behavior because its purpose is to inflict pain. At the same time, when you want to hurt others, you yourself will suffer.

While working at the same company, I deliberately framed a colleague, as it seemed to me that she received all her honors, promotions and privileges only because of her beauty and obsequious attitude towards our bosses. Even if it was so, weaving intrigues behind her back is an unjustified act. Such behavior will ultimately lead to nothing good. You will only compromise and humiliate yourself, and in the end you will be rewarded according to your deserts.

3. Lie

We resort to lies most often when we think the truth will backfire on us, or when we want to avoid the consequences of our truth. The problem with lying has two parts. First, when you tell yourself that you are incapable of dealing with reality or dealing with the consequences of the truth, and you are absolutely right, over time you become less powerful, less courageous, less respectable, and less credible. Secondly, the lie has taken root in you, it drains you, it consumes your life energy, which you need to unlock your potential.

If you are lying at work, try to take an open mind about what you are afraid of, and instead of continuing to act like this, face your fears in order to overcome them.

If you're lying at work - about your skills and talents, about your experience and qualifications, about the state of the jobs you oversee, or about who you are and what you're capable of, I would highly recommend that you take a close and open-minded look at that you are afraid, and instead of continuing to act like this, try to enter the "cage with the beast", face your fears in order to overcome them.

4. Talk about how unhappy you are.

Just the other day, I was talking to a former client who walked into her boss's office last week and shared her sadness with him about how unhappy she was at work, and then asked for a severance pay. I did exactly the same myself. Neither I nor my client received any severance pay.

After you shared this news with your manager, but did not receive the compensation you wanted, you are in a very worrying situation: the employer knows that you are not up to the job. In some specific cases, this may be the right move, but in general, it is more expensive to say that you hate your job.

But what if it's true? My father always said that there are ten different ways to talk about a problem, and I think he's right. Phrases such as “poor”, “unhappy”, “tired”, “ready to quit”, and “want to leave” can work against you when you say this to your colleagues, superiors or HR staff.

Your employer can afford to organize and support your professional growth. But this will not happen if you stamp your foot and say, “How unhappy I am! And it's all your fault."

What's the best way to do it? Talk about what you are good at, what you love to do, what you have achieved and what you aspire to. Emphasize the main points of your work, highlight the new directions that attract you and in accordance with which you want to build your career in the company, discuss your plans and desires for further growth, what changes you expect.

Open the door to new opportunities with your current employer who will broaden your skill set, enrich your resume and bring out your talents. Try to find growth opportunities in your current job (where you are already paid). Explore every option available to you to become who you want to be without anger or irritation. Your employer can afford to organize and support your professional growth. But this will not happen if you stamp your foot and say, “How unhappy I am! And it's all your fault."

5. Burn bridges

Without exaggeration, the biggest lesson I've learned in business is that success depends on relationships. How others perceive you, what they feel for you, what they think of you (and what you do for this). I'm not saying that your amazing talent and skill is not important at all. Of course they play a big role. But what I'm saying is that we can't succeed alone. We need others for this. And these people are not only our former leaders - they are people who communicate with you, cooperate with you, drink morning coffee and have a drink at the bar, participate in joint trainings with you, experience joyful moments and difficult times.

Every relationship is vital to you and your future, so treat them with great trepidation. Avoid people you don't trust, but don't burn bridges

Every relationship is vital to you and your future, so treat them with great trepidation. Avoid people you don't trust, but don't burn bridges. After 30 years in business, I have seen that the hundreds of people we interact with on a daily basis can ultimately become our strongest allies, supporters, and fans if we nurture and nurture our relationships. They are our key to success, they are our most valuable asset.

Translation: National Banking Journal

The British newspaper The Times cites stories of frustrated employers whose new hires don't live up to their first impressions. What not to do when getting a new job? How to prove to the employer that he made the right choice?

Sissy

“A couple of weeks ago, a new employee suddenly showed up to work with his mom,” says Donna Miller, head of human resources for a car rental company. “We had to explain to him that it was he, and not his mother, who was hired by us.” The 22-year-old young man managed to get rid of excessive parental care and, according to Miller, now he does not have such difficulties. The HR specialist chalked it up to the "overprotective parent" phenomenon, but it's important to understand what is acceptable behavior in the workplace.

Racer

Avoid aggressive driving on your first trip to work - you never know whose car you might "cut". “I heard a story about a guy who was cut off by some rude man while on his way to work and made an obscene gesture,” says Jonathan Rose, WH Marks Stattin lead manager in charge of recruiting new employees in the accounting department and finance. Quite a common event for rush hour, but it turned out that the reckless racer was in a hurry to be in time for the beginning of his first day of work, and his immediate supervisor turned out to be the victim of his rudeness. Not the best start to a career.

Mistake came out

Jackie Maynard, Recruiting Business Partner at Mouchel, recounts an amusing story from her former job. At 9 o'clock in the morning, a guy came into the waiting room and told the secretary that today was his first day of work. The secretary did not know anything about the new employee, all the managers who conducted the interviews were busy, and the manager was not in place. In order not to seem like an unprofessional worker, the secretary offered the guy a cup of coffee.

It took about an hour until we managed to contact the manager, who was extremely surprised by the appearance of a new employee, since none were planned for that day. It turned out that the newcomer ended up in the wrong office, in fact, he needed to go to the campaign, which was located two floors above. The embarrassment was also unpleasant because the guy was more than an hour late for his new job. The lesson to be learned from this story is to carefully read the location instructions for your new job and remember that your first day on the job may not start at all where you were interviewed.

special breakfast

Newcomers to Enterprise who are about to take an induction course often stay at a hotel, which can cause problems. “Nine new hires were supposed to show up in the lobby at 7:45 am,” Miller continues. But only five showed up. The recruiter went looking for it and found it “missing” over a leisurely breakfast in a restaurant.” The inauguration has to happen no matter how good the croissants are.

Judgment Day

Employers are particularly stressed by the situation when new employees begin to constantly compare their new workplace with their old job. Jackie Maynard advises to refrain from remarks like "This is how they used to do it at my old job." “Now you work in a design organization and it is unlikely that anyone is interested in what and how you did when you worked at the ice cream factory,” Jackie warns. For sure, everything will be a little different, and it will take some time until you get used to it. “There are a couple of cases in my practice where people just don't show up the next day,” Jonathan Rose adds, advising to be more open to change.

Beaver, breathe!

Relax. “No one expects you to perform on your first day at a new job,” Maynard says. - Do not take on an unbearable burden. It usually takes up to three months before everything that happens in a new company more or less fits in your head. Miller, in turn, advises not to force things, let everything take its course. No need to show excessive initiative, which can scare away new colleagues from you.

Why

It is perfectly acceptable to ask questions about the company's operations, but when asking them, think about the impression they might leave. Here are some of the most inappropriate questions new hires have on their first day on the job: “Why is the notice period for voluntary termination so long?” “How fast can I get promoted?” The “best” question is, without a doubt, “How much is my cash sickness benefit?” Recruitment specialists recommend not asking the employer questions that will cast doubt on your interest in the job.

Based on the materials of "Point.Ru"

You may not attach much importance to some situations that happen at work, the style of communication with colleagues, but we urge you to pay attention to these things so that later you will not be fired.

1. Discuss bosses. Any person will not like it if they discuss him behind his back, even if he has developed immunity to this. You should not discuss, dissolve gossip about your boss's personal life, especially if you are not sure that this is true.

Also, do not criticize his actions when communicating with colleagues. Say only what you can repeat in the eyes of the leader. Otherwise, if someone denounces you or your boss comes up without you noticing, you risk being fired or losing your career prospects in this job.

2. Solve personal matters. Talking with a friend on the phone, talking about your unsuccessful love, enrolling a child in a clinic, arranging a visit to a beautician - try to do all this outside of working hours. This can annoy the authorities, which, in principle, is logical. After all, you come to work to work!

3. Be late. Undoubtedly, no one is immune from force majeure, but if you are systematically late, this is a fairly significant reason for at least a fine. Try to find another route to work if traffic is a problem. Or make a detailed plan for getting paid for work so that you can follow it and not be distracted by extraneous activities. Also, in the evening, a prepared image will free you a good half an hour in the morning.

4. Use office equipment for personal purposes. Some bosses are loyal to this, and some control it strongly enough so that employees do not print course acquaintances or entire books in electronic form on a work printer. This is also a reasonable requirement. After all, if every employee of the company begins to use office equipment for their needs, the costs will increase greatly.

5. Dress inappropriately. This applies not only to workers in those professions where the dress code must be observed. If you have a free form of clothing, this still does not mean that you can come to work in a tracksuit. You should always dress for the occasion so that the clothes are appropriate.

6. To communicate in social networks. Social media is a very powerful time killer. Instead of chatting with a friend on Skype, VKontakte and posting selfies with a bored expression on your face and the caption “tired of work”, it’s better to get busy. This way, you won’t piss off your bosses, and you won’t have to take home work that you didn’t have time to do in the office.

7. Have a get-together at the buffet. It is designed to have lunch or just a snack in it, and not discuss with colleagues all the news of the day and the events of the new series.

8. Start relationships. This item is, of course, at your discretion. Office romances have their pros, but they also have their cons. For example, you are constantly distracted at work by your lover, communicate with him. This reduces your productivity as an employee. In addition, if over time your relationship comes to an end, someone will have to change jobs, since it will be impossible to see the former soulmate. Of course, unless you decide to remain friends.

Even though the first day at work can be stressful, it's important to channel your energy in the right direction and make a good impression.

1. Prepare and ask questions

Mark Strong, career and personal development consultant, believes that the first day of work should be more devoted to listening. “In general, you must demonstrate interest, curiosity and a desire to learn. However, beware of asking too many questions on the first day. You have plenty of time ahead of you to study the work." Lynn Taylor, a work organization expert and author of Taming Your Formidable Office Tyrant and Managing Your Boss Like a Child and Thriving at Work, suggests writing down general and specific questions that will help you be more successful in your position. “You have enough knowledge about the company that you can deepen it with specific questions in your first meeting with a manager. Have a list of things you want to ask your manager about. Make sure you have an HR contact who can resolve basic issues before you start your day.”

2. Prepare a short story about yourself

Be prepared to give 30 seconds about yourself and where you've worked before, as many colleagues will want to know more about you, Taylor says. Also, be prepared to explain what you will be doing in the new place. Some may have little idea of ​​your responsibilities (or just want to strike up a conversation).

3. Arrive early

Show up at least 15 minutes early for your new job, says Teri Hocket, CEO of What s for work, a career development site for women. “If you have never been to this part of the city, try to get here a couple of times during rush hour. So you will know what to prepare for, and there will be no surprises for you.

4. Study the environment

The two most important factors that determine success at work are the ability to get along with colleagues and maintain relationships with the right ones, says David Parnell, legal consultant and communications coach. “In any organization of any size, you will find people who get along better with superiors than anyone else. If you want to move up and take a better position in the company, you need to build relationships with the right people.”

5. Relax

When solving strategic problems, do not forget to relax on the first working day. This will help you improve your productivity. Make sure you've rested the night before, prepared, and are able to arrive at work on time. This is a clear indication of your desire to be your best, so be your best.

6. smile

“Obviously, you spent some effort looking for a job, passing an interview. And now that you've taken your desk chair, don't forget to have fun and enjoy the moment," Hockett says. Strong agrees, elaborating: “We all know how important first impressions are. Smile when you meet new people and shake hands. Get to know everyone and show how happy and enthusiastic you are to be here. Your colleagues will remember you."

7. Step into the role and play it

"This is not the best time to show complacency and walk around the office with a cup of coffee, as well as crack witty jokes or discuss hot news," Taylor said. If in doubt about how to behave, keep a conservative approach in dress and communication. Behave the same way you would in an interview. Hockett advises deciding on a dress code in advance so as not to look out of place on the first day: "This is important because the way you dress can turn people away instead of winning them over to us." Ideally, you need to achieve harmony between yourself and the environment, so that you and they feel comfortable. If you have any doubts about the dress code, call the HR department and ask questions.

8. Don't be embarrassed

Be sure to shake hands and introduce yourself to the team.

9. Don't overdo it

Too much desire to impress can backfire, so remember you've already been accepted and you don't need to overwhelm your new colleagues, Taylor says. Every new employee wants others to appreciate how talented and unique he is; or noted how quickly and how effectively he got a new position. But this can be a waste of effort. Behave naturally - so you quickly get used to it.

10. Don't Skip Lunch

“If a new co-worker or boss asks you to have lunch together, don't say no,” Hockett says. “It is important to show that you are ready to join the team and become part of a new team - this way you will save sandwiches brought from home.”

11. ListenAndwatch

The best thing you can do in your first few days at a new job is listen, listen, listen, Strong says. “Now is not the time to formulate your own opinion. Be friendly, meet people, smile and listen." This is an excellent opportunity to learn about the goals of your manager and other team members, departments and major projects. This is a chance to understand the big picture and priorities. Be prepared to take in a lot of information, Taylor advises.

12. Pay attention to how decisions are made.

As you listen and watch, pay attention to how decisions are made, says Parnell. “Regardless of the size of the company, one or another decision-making culture is characteristic of it: ad hoc, when decisions are made after the event has occurred; or ex ante, when the event has not yet occurred. It is necessary to know how to act." If you need firm boundaries and support, you will have to activate your own potential in order to know how to act in an unforeseen situation. But if you want the freedom and space to make your own decisions, you may have to put up with control and predictability.

13. Communicate with colleagues

The most valuable information about the work of your department you can get from your colleagues. If you immediately establish friendly and open relationships, you have a chance to successfully start work in an atmosphere of trust. Show enthusiasm. You'll be under scrutiny, Taylor says. Your attitude to work and work discipline are the most obvious criteria for evaluating you as an employee, especially since you will not have the opportunity to demonstrate professional skills at first. Everyone wants to work with people who exude enthusiasm and optimism. So show that this is exactly what you can expect.

14. Learn your responsibilities

On the first day, the manager will tell you about your responsibilities - verbally or in writing. This is what will help you be successful at work. "There's usually always a gap between what you're told to do and what actually happens," Parnell notes. “You must not neglect the duties that are expressly formulated, nor those that are simply expected of you. The sooner you figure it out, the better."

15. Mute your cell phone

You must be 100% immersed in the work. Especially on the first day.

16. Show interest

You will meet many people, and when they try to find out something about you, try to find out something about them. It's not just flattery, it'll help you do a better job, Taylor says.

17. Pay attention to body language