It is known that when communicating with each other, people, without knowing it, use sign language in addition to speech. Whatever your interlocutor tells you, you should pay attention to his facial expressions, gestures and body movements. "Body language" - body language - will reveal to you his true intentions and feelings. Even a smile and your interlocutor can tell a lot about him:

If a person covers his mouth with his hand when laughing, which means that he is somewhat timid and unsure of himself. Such a person does not reveal himself to others, tries to stay in the shadows, is often embarrassed.

If the other person laughs out loud with an open mouth, then, probably, he belongs to the mobile and temperamental people. He likes to speak himself, but he does not know how to listen. He could use a little restraint and moderation.

When a person throws their head back when laughing, this speaks of his broad soul, gullibility and gullibility. Often he does unexpected things, guided only by his feelings.

If he wrinkles his nose when laughing it is likely that this person is not conservative. His feelings and opinions change quickly and often. He will not defend his point of view for a long time if you give several reasons to prove the opposite. He is emotional and often capricious, easily succumbing to a momentary mood.

When she laughs, does she squint her eyelids? This indicates the confidence and balance of the interlocutor. He is an active, persistent person with an extraordinary mind. However, in his persistence, he often goes too far.

If a person does not have a certain way to laugh apparently he belongs to the individualists. Such people in everything and are always guided by their own opinion, neglecting the views of others.

A little about what it says exactly laughter of a woman and a man separately:

Wise and strong woman laughs softly, barely audible at the same time squinting his eyes. A carefree, kind, but modest girl laughs easily and fervently. An intelligent woman with a subtle sense of romanticism knows how to laugh iridescently, going from laughter to giggling. Laughing heartily, infecting those around you with your sonorous and bright enthusiasm is within the power of sincere, gentle natures, believing in different fantasies.

Scared, insecure woman when she laughs, then covers his mouth with his hand, as if trying to restrain himself, hide his laughter from others. Strong, temperamental stubborn people have a bright trait - to laugh with all their teeth. Well-bred, sophisticated ladies, confidently walking through life, laugh "decently", within the framework of the norms and rules of conduct in public places.

Psychologists are convinced if you want more learn about a man, discover new facets of his character, then make him laugh by telling a few anecdotes, and just watch how he laughs.

Loud leaping laughter for no particular reason, with his mouth wide open, suggests that such a man is a very mobile, temperamental person. But his psyche is unstable, he is unrestrained and easily passes from the stage of unbridled laughter to unreasonable anger. Such men prefer to talk a lot rather than listen.

Balanced, self-confident person, persistent and active laughs softly, contagiously, slightly closing his eyes... A man with an even character, with a slight admixture of narcissism and selfishness, laughs calmly, without even opening his mouth. This type of man is an excellent interlocutor, he will listen to you with participation and even express a desire to help, especially if you do not need to run somewhere or do something for this. If a man does not have a certain manner of laughing, then he has a bright personality. His own "I" dominates in any issue, and he has absolutely nothing to do with the opinions of others.

Laughter prolongs life, it is a generally accepted fact. Positive emotions and joy can keep you healthy, even if medicine is powerless. Stress and its consequences will melt away without a trace with laughter. Women who laugh and smile often are more attractive and handsome to men. Laugh heartily, enjoy life and love!

Knowing these little tricks and being an observant person, you can get an idea of ​​the interlocutor. And also It is useful to observe yourself: what does your smile say about you?

GOOD TO KNOW:

LAUGH- a psychophysiological phenomenon underlying the comic and the literary effects determined by it, from simply funny, amusing, to satire and comedy. The nature of laughter and the literary phenomena associated with it still seems to be insufficiently understood.

The closest to the essence of the matter can be considered the provisions on the nature of laughter in life and literature, developed in the work of G. Bergson: "Laughter in life and on stage" (St. Petersburg, 1900), and consistent in general and in particular with the vast circles of comic phenomena.
Laughter is an exclusively human phenomenon. Consequently, laughter is somehow directly related to what most distinguishes man from animals, with his reasoning intellect. At the same time, laughter, starting with a smile, is an expression of some kind of vital joy, felt, and to some extent conscious. There are also some elements in laughter that assert some superiority of the one who laughs over what causes laughter, fun over oneself, ridicule. Laughter is primarily a social phenomenon; he gives a person the greatest share of pleasure when shared with someone, in an actual general infectious laugh, for example, when presenting funny scenes in the theater, or at least in imagination - when reading a comic work, for example, we imagine a laughing author and etc.

Neither dead nature, nor living, without relation to man, does not in any case excite laughter; here only rare examples of the game of chance can be funny, which unexpectedly reminded us of the human world (some kind of rock that turned out to be an unexpectedly living likeness of an ugly face or the jumps and movements of an animal, unexpectedly reminiscent of human grips (circus effects of animals depicting people, etc.) .According to the witty explanation of Bergson, our laughter is an expression of the joy of our conscious being, that joy of life, as it were, selfish, which involuntarily flares up in us when something appears before us, testifying that before us a living and full life has just been disturbed by the intrusion into this life of some dead, inert, mechanical, automatic principle. Having manifested itself in a human being or society, this beginning alien to life somehow diminished his vitality now. We felt this and for a moment are glad that this belittling did not actually touch us, that we were above it, and we express this selfish pleasure with laughter.

In this way laughter is a sign of pleasure from our felt superiority over a dead or inert principle hostile to the living. This is easy to see if we trace the simplest examples of comic effects - for example, from the unexpected funny fall of a person who was not hurt - continuing with more complex effects, and ending with the most subtle and deep ones. In all the phenomena of laughter, it is this intrusion into the life of something inert that plays the leading role. Therefore, any social satire is based on the phenomenon of the struggle of living life with a certain inertia and mechanicalness, an excessive stability of the social order; the phenomenon of the struggle of individual life against habits and stable customs. Laughter, therefore, is the self-defense of social groups from their mortification.

Contradictions of vitality of varying degrees in people and society are ridiculous (for example, mischievous youth and measured monotony of old age habits, etc.) or contradictions of vitality between people of different social groups (comic, for example, a gentleman, an aristocrat in comparison with a working people in an environment his habitual and harmonious work, and sometimes vice versa). The same is confirmed by such a simple example of the comic as the depiction of mechanical figures by living people: the principle of this ridiculous contradiction explains why any mechanization of life, its regulation and bureaucratization, etc., etc., is so comical and laughable. life in laughter rises all our living consciousness. But laughter dies out easily and often. It is difficult to laugh at the scary itself. The ugliness of interference in the living life of inert and mechanical principles sometimes acquires a frightening character, and then we are afraid of the victory of these principles over life: in many such cases, laughter becomes painful, hysterical and expresses not the triumph of a person over the dead and inert, but his tragic horror before death. victorious over the living ("Dead Souls" by Gogol, "Toy business people" by Saltykov, the soulless inhabitants of Chekhov). This is how we, for example, painfully perceive some of the effects of Gogol's frightening laughter (the end of The Inspector General, some pages of Dead Souls) or Saltykov's laughter. So, starting with a light, with a grin, from a cheerful acting - funny, laughter sometimes turns into its direct opposite, to bitter tears about the death of life. The phenomenon of decomposition of laughter among many satirists and humorists is also associated with these features: in the end, they eventually reveal an often gloomy, not at all cheerful contemplation. There is a classic anecdote about the gloomy Openness. Examples: - Swift, our Gogol, Gleb Uspensky, Chekhov, Saltykov. The decomposition of laughter in pure humorists is associated with the peculiarity of humor (see this word), as the mood of the human soul, which not only ridicules the ridiculous world standing below, but also feels its own close and warm kinship with it; humor not only denounces, like pure rational satire, but also supports the world and people, whose environment grasps and feels the elements of the dead, inert and mechanical, worthy of ridicule. Hence the humorists, with their characteristic fold of lively sensitivity, have a particular ease of transition to crying for people.

The extinction of laughter among laugh-makers of a different kind, among pure satirists, in whom the rational superiority of the mind prevails over a stupid mechanical life, turns not into crying, but into prophetic denunciation and indignation; under the blows of the satirical scourge, people no longer laugh (the effects of Swift's murderously gloomy satire on humanity or Saltykov's satire, about which Turgenev reports that when reading his essays in society, people sometimes did not laugh anymore, but writhed in some kind of painful, painful convulsion).

Laughter in Russian literature is still very insufficiently covered by its researchers. Russian laughter then tends to light humor(Pushkin, Gogol, Ostrovsky, Gleb Uspensky, Chekhov), but also to harsh satire (Saltykov), and the above phenomenon is clearly outlined in the history of humor and satire - the decomposition of laughter among laughter-makers, which is especially strong in Gogol, Ch. ... Uspensky, Chekhov. Russian humor is also colored with elements of Little Russian humor - Gogol and the southern Chekhov, etc. Caricatures and flying satire and humor of magazines did not receive from us, due to political oppression (fearful laughter), sufficient development, although at times they played a significant role in literature ( humor of the 18th century, "Whistle" and "Iskra" in the 50-60s, the outbreak of political satire after 1905).
V. Cheshihin-Vetrinsky.

Literary encyclopedia: Dictionary of literary terms: In 2 volumes - M .; L .: Publishing house of L. D. Frenkel Ed. N. Brodsky, A. Lavretsky, E. Lunin, V. Lvov-Rogachevsky, M. Rozanov, V. Cheshihin-Vetrinsky 1925

Rubbing the tip of the nose

One of the most common gestures that signals insincerity or deception is when a person touches their nose or touches a dimple under their nose several times.

Alan Pease (a well-known interpreter of body movements) explains this gesture like this: when a person tells a lie, he involuntarily wants to cover his mouth with his hand, but this action is interrupted, and a more unobvious and disguised gesture is obtained.

A gesture can have two meanings, depending on whether the person is speaking or listening. If Rem Vyakhirev, illustrating this gesture, speaks himself, then keep your ears open: it seems that he is not saying at all what he really thinks. If Rem Vyakhirev, making this gesture, is listening to someone at that moment, then he does not believe what he hears from his interlocutor, or doubts the sincerity of the speaker's words. In the same way, we can understand the gesture of Mikhail Piotrovsky (director of the State Hermitage): everything will depend on whether he is speaking at a given moment or listening.

Another meaning of this gesture is the silence of the truth, when a person knows it, but says that he does not know. Accordingly, you can think out the situation depending on the context, and to the question - "who stole the state money?" - the answer with the rubbing of the nose - “I didn’t do it” - means that the person is lying, and the answer with the rubbing of the nose - “I don’t know who did it” - says that the person knows, but does not want or does not find it possible say it.

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1) Covering the mouth

The hand covers the mouth, as if the brain is subconsciously trying to suppress the uttering of false words. Sometimes a person covers his mouth with only a few fingers, sometimes with a clenched fist, but this does not change the meaning of the gesture.

Covering the mouth


Some try to justify this gesture with an imitation of a cough. Actors playing gangsters or criminals often use this gesture when discussing crime or police interrogations. The audience immediately understands that their characters are hiding something or are simply deceiving.

If such a gesture is used by your interlocutor, you can be sure that he is deceiving you. If the interlocutor covers his mouth at the moment when you speak, then it seems to him that you are deceiving him. This is the most unpleasant gesture a person can see when speaking in public. Having noticed him, you need to stop and ask: "Would anyone like to ask a question?" or say: “I see that some disagree with me. Ask questions, please. " This will allow the audience to openly express their doubts, and the speaker - to clarify certain points of his speech and answer questions. Do the same when you notice that the audience begins to cross their arms.


If your parents or caregivers often used such a gesture in your childhood, then, most likely, it will firmly enter your "lexicon" of body movements.


Sometimes people cover their mouths with one finger, as if calling for silence. Most likely, the parents of such a person often used this gesture when he was young. In adulthood, he uses it to try not to betray his true feelings. Such a gesture immediately makes it clear that the interlocutor is hiding something.

2. Touching the nose


Sometimes a person touches the tip of the nose with a light, almost imperceptible movement, sometimes vigorously rubs the space between the upper lip and nose. Women make this movement more invisibly than men, probably for fear of ruining their makeup.

It is very important to remember that such a gesture should only be interpreted in relation to and in context. It is possible that your interlocutor just has a cold.

Scientists have found that when a person lies, substances called catecholamines are produced in his body, which act on the nasal mucosa. With the help of special equipment, scientists were able to monitor the blood flow in the body and came to the conclusion that deliberate lying also leads to an increase in blood pressure. This is why people blush. Also connected with this is the "Pinocchio effect". High blood pressure affects the nose and the nerve endings located in it. The nose starts to itch, and the person involuntarily rubs it.

It is impossible to notice the enlargement of the nose with the naked eye, but touching the nose is very difficult to hide. The same thing happens when a person is anxious, resentful, or angry.

American scientists - neuropathologist Alan Hirsch and psychiatrist Charles Wolfe conducted a thorough analysis of Bill Clinton's speech to the Grand Jury during the analysis of his relationship with Monica Lewinsky. Scientists found that when the president spoke the truth, he barely touched his nose. When Clinton lied, he frowned for a moment before answering and touched his nose every four minutes. Hirsch and Wolfe counted 26 touches. When Clinton answered honestly, he didn't touch his nose at all.

Research carried out using special equipment has shown that when a man lies, his penis fills with blood and enlarges. Maybe the Grand Jury should have taken off Clinton's pants?


"I have not had sexual relations with this woman."


3. Scratching the nose

Itchy nose usually goes away after vigorous scratching or rubbing. This is how this gesture differs from touching the nose, which we just talked about. As with covering the mouth, both the speaker trying to cover up the deception and the listener who doubts what he heard can touch the nose. Scratching your nose is usually an isolated, repetitive gesture.

4. Rubbing eyes

“I don't see anything,” says one of the wise monkeys. When a child does not want to look at something, he closes his eyes with one or both palms. When an adult does not want to see something unpleasant, he begins to rub his eyes. Such a gesture indicates an attempt by the brain to block deception, doubt, or an unpleasant sight.

Men usually rub their eyes vigorously, as if deception is a speck in their eye. Women rub their eyes much less often. Instead, they lightly touch the lower eyelid, which is not surprising, since they do not want to spoil their makeup. At the same time, women also look to the side.


"I just can't see it!"


"Lying through clenched teeth" is a fairly common expression. It means a whole chain of gestures: clenching your teeth, faking a smile, and rubbing your eyes. This chain is often used in movies to portray insincerity. It is also quite common, for example, in England, since the British almost never tell the interlocutor about their thoughts.

5. Rubbing the earlobe


"I don't want to hear this!"


Imagine that you say to a person: "This product costs only three hundred pounds," and he starts rubbing his earlobe, looking away, but at the same time says: "Sounds tempting." The person's gestures betray a symbolic attempt to “hear nothing”. He tries to block what he hears by placing his hand to his ear and rubbing the lobe. There is an adult version of a child's gesture: when a child does not want to hear reproaches from adults, he covers his ears with both palms. Some people begin to rub their neck behind the ear, poke around in the ear, stretch the lobe, or twist the ear so that the shell covers the auditory opening.

Rubbing the ear shows that the person has heard enough or wants to say something himself. This gesture, like touching the nose, is used by people who are anxious. Prince Charles often rubs his ear and touches his nose when he enters a crowded hall or walks past a crowd. These gestures betray his anxiety. But we have never seen pictures of such gestures when Prince Charles is inside his car, that is, in relative safety.

In Italy, rubbing an ear means that a man is homosexual or simply looks too feminine.

6. Scratching your neck


Showing uncertainty


The index finger (usually of the hand with which the person writes) scratches the neck under the earlobe. Our observations show that an average person scratches their neck five times. Very rarely, the number of scratches is less than five. Only a few scratch their neck more than five times. This gesture betrays doubt or uncertainty. The person seems to be telling you, "I'm not sure I can agree." This gesture is especially noticeable when a person's words contradict him. If a person says, “I can understand how you feel,” but at the same time scratches his neck, then he has no idea how you feel now.

7. Pulling back the collar

Desmond Morris was the first to discover that lying causes a tingling sensation in the tissues of the face and neck, so the person begins to scratch and rub them. Now it becomes clear why insecure people constantly scratch their necks. Telling lies and fearing being caught in a lie, some pull back their collars as if they are hot. Cheating leads to high blood pressure and increased sweating, especially when the cheater is afraid of being caught.

The same gesture appears when a person is angry or depressed. He unconsciously pulls back his collar to cool down a little. If you see the other person pulling back their collar, ask them to repeat or explain what they said. This will make the deceiver think about his actions and, possibly, tell the truth.



8. Fingers in the mouth

This is an unconscious attempt by a person to return to a state of security, which he remembered from infancy, when he sucked his mother's breast. This gesture occurs when a person feels under pressure. A small child replaces the mother's breast with a thumb or blanket. An adult, on the other hand, sucks a finger, a cigarette, a pipe, a pen, a shackle of glasses, or chews gum.

Most of the touching of the mouth is associated with deception and lies. However, a finger in the mouth indicates that the person has an inner need for encouragement. Support the interlocutor, give him certain guarantees - and this will allow you to move in a positive direction.


These people need encouragement.

Assessment and pulling gestures

A good speaker is considered to be those who “instinctively” feel the interest of the audience, and also know how to finish speaking on time. A good salesperson knows when he is able to reach a customer and is able to identify his true interests. Anyone who has given a presentation at least once knows the unpleasant feeling when clients say almost nothing and just observe the progress of the process. Fortunately, there are many gestures that can be used to gauge the other person’s attitude and progress.

Boredom

When the listener rests his head with his hand, it means that he is insanely bored. The hand helps to keep the head upright and stay awake. Pay attention to the force with which the cheek rests on the hand supporting it. At first, the head rests on the fingers, and as interest decreases, on the whole palm or on the fist. The complete lack of interest is illustrated in the figure. This pose may also be accompanied by light snoring.


If a person's hand does not serve as a support for him, but he simply puts it to his cheek, then this gesture means that the person evaluates you with interest. If the result is a negative assessment, then such a gesture can easily turn into a gesture of boredom.

Hands, like other parts of the body, sometimes talk about a person, his thoughts and emotions much more than he verbally expresses. But, note, hand gestures should not be considered separately from posture, facial expressions, gaze and other non-verbal signs... Any signal given by the body goes in complex.

For example, open palms, but lowered gaze speaks of defeat, not openness. In the article, we will focus on those hand gestures that most clearly speak of certain thoughts or feelings of a person. Tagged "Nota Bene!" highlighted are those hand movements that should be interpreted very carefully.

Feelings and desires in the hands of the interlocutor

If a person uses his index finger (points at someone real or imaginary), this indicates his desire to dominate and lead those with whom he is currently communicating, even if the topic of conversation is not about relationships.

The dominant gestures are also:

  • hands thrust into pockets, while the thumb remains outside.
  • hands folded in a wedge, thumbs also remain outside. Note that if a person shows his interlocutor his thumbs, he wants power over him, perhaps even wants to achieve his own with the help.
  • the fingertips are connected by a "house".
  • a firm handshake in which the palm rests on top of the interlocutor's palm.
  • hands rested on the hips. This is how the police, parents, educators and ... people stand, insecure. This sign does not so much express the desire to dominate as it speaks of the desire to look more confident. A person who wants to be wider, larger, more noticeable in the eyes of the interlocutor, often rests his hands on the waist.

If the interlocutor, in addition to these gestures, also has a ring on his thumb, this is another signal of a constant desire to dominate, to lead.

Openness and willingness to cooperate? Yes, if this is a frequent demonstration of palms during a friendly conversation, in which the person's gaze is fixed on the interlocutor. This ancient sign “look, I am without a weapon” is reinforced if, in the course of a conversation, a person unbuttons his jacket or sweater, takes off his watch, rings, bracelets.

Many sincere, friendly natures like to wear a ring on their little finger. This is another sign of an open nature. If the palms are shown in a conversation, but there is no eye contact, then this is a signal of surrender or a desire to evade responsibility.

Protection

This sign has many variations. We'll look at general trends. Usually, if a person is preparing to defend himself from an attack or is simply afraid of an attack, then he assumes a pose in which he “covers” parts of the body with his hands. This can be the chest, throat, abdomen, genitals.

Firmly grasping the other hand with one hand, the person also expresses excitement, he seems to be trying to "pull himself together" in the literal sense of the words. The higher the hand rests on the hand, the more excitement the interlocutor experiences. It is often possible to observe how schoolchildren or students hold the elbow with one hand with the other.

They try so hard to contain the excitement and protect themselves from possible "attacks" of the teacher.

This does not apply to the case when the hand wraps around the other hand behind the back during a walk or conversation. Such a gesture speaks of self-confidence. A person has opened all the most vulnerable parts of his body by hiding his hands - he trusts the interlocutor and is not afraid of him.

Distrust, doubt is expressed with the help of "prayerfully" folded hands. Also, the interlocutor does not really believe the words that he hears if he covers his mouth, nose with his hands, rubs his lips and eyelids with his fingers.

This is aggression, nervousness, if you see the interlocutor clenching his fists, pinching his palms. A person who collects villi from clothes does not agree with what the opponent says, he is not ready to defend his position, but there is aggression.

Uncertainty, overexcitement are expressed in the desire to lean on something, while fingering the object in his hands or playing with it. A person wants with the help of things, material support, to calm himself down, to become firmer.

An insecure person during a conversation uses only a few gestures, which are repeated often and do not depend on what is being discussed at a given moment. He simply, for example, regularly rubs the wrist of one hand, touches a pocket or cuff, straightens the collar.

Guarding security

A cheerful, cheerful person, open and willing to communicate some good news, usually actively and chaotically gestures. These same gestures are used by manipulators. Be careful if a person you don't know is talking to you, actively gesturing and looking at you point-blank.

If at the same time he casually touches your clothes, bag, shoulders - this is most likely a fraudster who is trying to win the favor with an imaginary positive.

A person who rubs the tips of their thumb and forefinger or middle fingers during a conversation wants to benefit from the interlocutor. He will either ask for money, or he wants to offer a deal or a product. Rubbing your palms also suggests that the other person is thinking about the money side of the conversation.

The interlocutor often wants to literally cover with his hands. He may cover his mouth, nose, scratch the bridge of his nose, eyes, or ears. When a person resorts to a lie, the body experiences stress, discomfort. Often this is what provokes a slight, barely noticeable itching on the face.

Covering your mouth (not necessarily with your own hands - it can be a book, a sheet of paper, a spoon) is a subconscious desire to hide from responsibility for a lie (remember the oldest stories about Adam and Eve, Cain and Abel, the one who lied, hid himself).

Hands always represent thoughts and desires. Note that this does not apply to professional speakers, coaches, teachers, actors. These people learn the "language" of the hands, so most often it is very difficult to understand them by observing the hands and gestures.

But an ordinary person can be "read" by hand. But the ability to correctly guess the movements of the hands requires knowledge of theory, practical exercises and observation.

Our article is just a small guide. Much more can be read in the books The Language of Thought by Peter Collett, The Language of Body by Alan Pease and others.

Hands can tell a lot about a person. With our hand we scratch the back of our head and rub our chin, we can hold our hands behind our back or cross them over our chest. These are the most typical movements common to any of us. We often do them unconsciously, but they say a lot about our personal qualities, character traits and desires. Here is an analysis of some of them.

Outstretched hand. In many countries, the typical form of greeting someone you know is a handshake. In Western culture, this gesture is also used in negotiations, when an agreement is finally reached or a contract is signed. But nevertheless, Europeans tend to keep a distance in relations with each other, therefore, even shaking hands with another person, they keep a certain distance from him. In countries where it is not customary to hug or kiss between male family members, one can often see brothers or father and son greet each other with a shake of the hand. The participation of hands in the greeting ritual is a custom that came from ancient times, since from time immemorial people showed open palms as a sign that they were not armed, as well as showing friendly and honest intentions. The Romans, for example, put their hand to their chest, and the North American Indians raised their hands up. In our time, Berbers, for example, when saying goodbye, give their hand, and then put it to their chest, as if saying that the leaving person remains in their heart.
The handshake itself carries a lot of information. If it is strong in a person, then this indicates his firm intentions or strong character, while a sluggish or weak handshake indicates the opposite. However, it should be borne in mind that people for whom the hands are a tool of work, such as musicians or surgeons, can shake your hand gently and carefully. Therefore, one should never jump to conclusions.

Hands clasped behind the back. Many people walk with their hands behind their backs. This posture is very typical for politicians and in general for people in positions of responsibility. If a person puts his hands behind his back, intercepting one another, this indicates that he, apparently, feels some superiority over the others, as well as that he is confident in himself, his position in life and in his special position in society. This gesture expresses high confidence in the interlocutor: it is obvious that the body of a person with hands turned back is open and vulnerable, and therefore he feels safe and does not expect any attack. As a rule, in such a case, he stands or walks with his head raised, slightly protruding his chest. However, if one of the hands behind the back, a person holds the other hand not by the fingers, but by the wrist or even higher, closer to the elbow, then this is already a sign of frustration, speaks of his lack of control over the situation or an attempt to somehow cheer himself up ... The more one hand squeezes the hand or elbow of the other hand, the higher the inner tension of a person and the greater the degree of his self-doubt; the more shyness a person feels, the further his hands are pulled behind his back. But in a normal situation, he takes such a position when he stands or walks, while he often scratches the back of his head, now and then straightens his tie or shirt collar. Speech here, as a rule, is about a person's bad mood. By removing their hands from the field of view of their interlocutor, a person tries to hide a state of anxiety, stress, emotional excitement or frustration.

Arms crossed over the chest. Hands folded across the chest usually indicates that the individual is worried or lost in his own thoughts. Hands in this position can also be a kind of protective barrier that we unconsciously put up so that no one and nothing can enter our heart. Human behavior studies show that if a woman sits with her arms folded across her chest, it means that the person next to her is not at all attractive to her.

Hands lowered along the body. If, with the arms lowered along the body, a standing or sitting person holds his back straight, this indicates that he is calm and confident in himself. However, when he not only has lowered arms, but also drooped shoulders, it can be a sign of upset, boredom or depression.

Raised hands. This is a typical gesture from victorious athletes. However, depending on the circumstances, it can have other meanings. For example, the victim will raise his hands up as if to say “I surrender!” If she is threatened with a pistol or some other weapon. Hands raised up, but at the same time spread apart can be interpreted as an open hug and perceived as a sign of greeting or affection towards the interlocutor. A person waving their arms is better seen from a distance. So if we want to attract someone's attention, ask someone for help, or just greet, then we also raise one or both hands.

Hands clutching one another. This gesture, made by the interlocutor during a conversation, can mean his latent tension or rage. He is probably in a state of extreme irritation and makes an effort over himself not to explode. If at the same time a person is sitting, then perhaps he will also cross his legs under the chair.

Hands clenched into fists. This gesture expresses anger or threat. In such a situation, it is very appropriate to look closely to see if the interlocutor's knuckles have turned white. It is also important to pay attention to exactly where he holds his hands clenched into fists: if a person is sitting at the same time, then, perhaps, he will put them on the table; if it does, it will most likely lower it low enough. According to the results of recent studies, the height at which a person holds his clenched hands has a direct relationship with the degree of his frustration: the higher the fist is, the sharper the dislike of the interlocutor.
The researchers also came up with other unexpected findings about clenched fists. For example, it was found that women very rarely resort to this gesture during a conversation, from which it follows that, at least as an unconscious action, it is more characteristic of men. In addition, it turned out that people sitting at business meetings with their hands clasped rarely make profitable deals, because their potential partners do not always want to do business with those who do not keep their open palms in sight: at a subconscious level, this is perceived as a lack of decency or dishonesty.

Hand-wringing. The interpretation of this bodily sign is similar to that given to hands clenched into fists. Wringing of hands usually indicates that a person is in a state of tension and anxiety, anxiously waiting for something and feeling an impending danger. Tapping fingers or knuckles on the table.
This gesture is usually also a sign of stress, frustration, or anxiety. It can also indicate boredom or suspicion about the other person's words. Often this gesture expresses the impatience of a person who wants to change the topic of the conversation, or even end the conversation as soon as possible.

Hands folded as in prayer. The person who uses this gesture is trying with all his might to convince his interlocutor of something, or he wants to especially emphasize something very important in his speech.

Rub the palms of your hands. This gesture is a clear sign of satisfaction with what has already happened or is about to happen. Here the intensity with which the action itself is performed is sometimes important, because the interpretation of the intentions of a person rubbing his hands depends on this. For example, when a salesperson really cares about customer satisfaction, he will rub his hands quickly and vigorously in conversation with him; if he is just trying to "sweeten the pill," then his movements will be slower.

Support your cheek or chin with your hand. This movement suggests that the interlocutor analyzes all the pros and cons and tries to formulate his own opinion on the issue under discussion. This is the classic pose in which the "Thinker" by the French sculptor Rodin sits.

Touching, rubbing or stroking your nose. Such actions of a person are a clear sign of his self-doubt. He feels uncomfortable in his environment and, moreover, has a negative attitude towards what is happening. If this gesture is made by a person speaking something, it is likely that he is trying to deceive the interlocutor, although confirmation of the guess must be sought in other bodily signs. It may also happen that a person's nose is simply combed back. As a rule, someone who tells a lie not only touches or rubs his nose, but also avoids eye contact with the interlocutor, trying to distance himself from him or fearing to be face to face with him.
If, in response to too energetic persuasion of a zealous seller, a person rubs his nose, this most often means his skepticism about what he heard.

Rub your ear or touch the earlobe. A person performs such actions when the topic under discussion does not bother him too much and he either does not want to delve into it, or wants to forget what he has heard. But sometimes, in such a delicate form, he hints that he has something to say and that he is just waiting for the right moment to join the conversation. It has been proven that in a minute a person can pronounce about seven hundred words, so when people have to wait a long time for their turn, they often resort to this gesture, and sometimes even raise their hand, thus expressing a desire to insert their word.

Scratching various parts of the body. This can be a sign that the person is lying or hiding something, as well as mean doubts or self-doubt. Although, the possibility is not excluded that he really itched somewhere!
Scratch the side of the neck with one or two fingers. If the speaker performs such actions, there is no doubt that he is insincere or not too sure of the correctness of his words. This gesture is typical for an orator who, in a public speech, makes a speech written by someone else. In turn, if a listener scratches his neck, perhaps he suspects another person of lying or has not yet formed a definite attitude towards what he heard. According to the results of some studies, in such situations, a person repeats this gesture an average of five times.

Rub or lower your eyes and raise your eyebrows in disbelief. These are typical gestures that indicate insincerity and possible deception. The person lowers his eyes to avoid eye contact and not give himself away. However, if your interlocutor just rubbed his eye, without looking away, then this usually means just doubt.

Loosen the collar of the shirt. This gesture indicates that the person is experiencing irritation and extreme frustration. He may also testify that the speaker is telling a lie. Some people, when they lie, develop something like itching in the neck and face, and to get rid of this sensation, they try to loosen contact with the clothes by pulling the collar. When observing such gestures from someone, one should take into account the temperature in the room and other factors of the same kind, because very often a person looses the collar of his shirt simply because he is hot.

Place your hand on your chest. Many people resort to this gesture when they feel distrust on the part of the interlocutor and the need to prove their own sincerity and decency. In such cases, they instinctively bring their hand to their hearts to emphasize the sincerity of their words.

Point your index finger at a person or group of people. This is a commanding gesture that is a manifestation of authoritarianism. According to the rules of good manners, you should not use it, except in those cases when you need to indicate the direction of movement and gaze to the interlocutor. People quite often resort to this gesture in skirmishes, for example, in a traffic accident, when two drivers argue who is right and who is wrong. They also poke a finger, scolding children. Perhaps that is why many of us feel uncomfortable when someone's finger points in our direction: subconsciously, we feel ourselves in the role of a guilty child, and for an adult it is quite humiliating.

Keep your hands in your pockets. This pose is more typical for men and often indicates a state of some nervousness in which the subject is, and also that he needs to somehow discharge himself.

Stand akimbo. They also say about this pose - “put your hands on your hips”. It reflects the state of some aggressiveness of a person and conveys him a certain threat to others. It shows that a person is ready for action, especially in a situation in which he feels uncomfortable. Women tend to stand on their hips, thus focusing on the shapes of their own bodies: in this case, the pose becomes emphatically sensual.

Also, there are nuances that often elude the attention of an unprepared person, which, nevertheless, were identified by researchers as a result of observing many people. So, talking about the future, a person usually gestures with his right hand; and if in some cases he uses his left hand, then his movements are directed to the right side. Obviously, people associate the future with the direction of movement to the right or forward. And vice versa, when people talk about the past, it's easy to see that they are pointing to the left or back. At the same time, when it comes to what is happening in the present moment, a person's gestures are focused on what is right in front of him. The speed of gestures does not matter here, but it can tell a lot about the degree of arousal, satisfaction or stiffness of a person during a conversation.

The above list is far from exhaustive. There are many other common gestures, but it is impossible to account for all hand movements and combinations with their participation.

Every time a person consciously or instinctively accompanies his words with any gesture, he thereby conveys a parallel message, which sometimes coincides in meaning with what he expressed in words, and sometimes not. When we are faced with the need to understand what is happening, make a judgment about someone or successfully solve a certain problem, the ability to interpret the meaning of the most common body movements becomes extremely important.