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Valentina Isaeva, who gave birth to Khabib Patakhonov at the age of 11, became the heroine of Dmitry Shepelev's program "Actually". She came to ask for help. Isaeva and her husband Khabib Patakhonov were once called modern Romeo and Juliet. The girl became pregnant by a seventeen-year-old boy who came to Russia from Tajikistan to work. Then this story caused a huge resonance in society. Lovers publicly pleaded government bodies leave their family alone. That is why the young man managed to avoid criminal punishment.

After some time, the couple formalized the relationship. When Valya was 20 years old, they had another baby. However, the mother of two children decided to leave her husband. She announced her decision to the whole country on the Channel One show.


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Isaeva said that she feared for own life and the fate of children. On the air of the program, Khabib admitted that he had repeatedly raised his hand to his wife. Further, the talk show experts asked the man if he was cheating on Valentina, he answered in the negative, but the polygraph showed that it was a lie.

“I don’t want to say anything. Initially, I didn't want to come to this studio, ”Patakhonov said.


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In turn, Valentina Isaeva decided on a frank confession. The mother of two children stated in live that for more than a year she has been in a relationship with another man who is ready to protect her.

"We have complicated relationship... I'm afraid of you. I'm afraid it will get worse. I can not go on. I told you that I do not love you and will divorce you, ”Valya turned to Khabib.


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Despite the fact that at the end of the talk show, Khabib admitted that he loves his wife, Valentina was determined. According to the woman, she has absolutely no feelings for her husband, so she is ready to file for divorce. Since the couple has two children, the judicial authorities will take care of their case.

Khabib insisted that his son and daughter live with him. Sabina Pantus, the program expert, sharply answered the hero.

“Who the children will be left with will be decided by the court, weighing all the grounds. This is not for you to decide, Khabib. Not everything is decided by a fist, not everything is decided by aggression. And it is with your behavior that you have led to this, ”the specialist said.

Patakhonov urged his wife to go home together, but Isaeva refused the offer.

“I will no longer stay with this person, I will not go with him. I will return to the apartment when he leaves there, ”Isaeva summed up.

September 19 in the program In fact, Valentina Isaeva and Khabib continuation of the story 09.09.2017 watch online today a couple, known throughout the country, the youngest mother of Russia Valentina Isaeva and her husband Khabib, are passing a polygraph test. Valya and Khabib are remembered by the whole country, an 11-year-old girl gave birth to a 19-year-old boy and became the youngest mother in Russia. Then they argued that this is a love story of modern Romeo and Juliet or a criminal offense? Valya and Khabib begged not to break their happiness and not take away the child, and on numerous talk shows they swore that they had real love to the grave. Khabib was saved from prison by a miracle, the newly-made dad got off with a suspended sentence in exchange for a promise to marry, and the newborn child was left to young parents. Romeo and Juliet got married as soon as Vale was 18 years old, and at 20 she gave birth to her second child, a son, from Khabib. But 12 years have passed and already grown up Valya, secretly from her husband, turned to our program and asked to save her. What secret hides the whole Last year matured Juliet, what does she want to tell her husband in front of the whole country and why is she afraid for her own life?

A revolutionary talk show that helps people sort out relationships. He survived the loss. Survived deception and betrayal. And now he knows for sure - the one whom the crowd condemned will never judge others. He is ready to help his heroes speak frankly, so that the truth becomes inevitably obvious.

I've always wanted to host a talk show on Channel One. Finally, the time has come for this to take place. I am going back home.

Really is a revolutionary new talk show. Face-to-face confrontation between people who were once close. Lies broke this relationship, but could not break it off to the end. And only the truth can change the course of this personal story. She can separate people forever, or she can unite them. Because even the participants in the events sometimes do not fully understand themselves how everything happened - in fact.

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Many are now indignant at the attitude of officials, called upon by law to protect the rights of minors, to the situation with Kheda Gailabieva. However, the Russian authorities clearly demonstrated their position regarding barges with minors (and how legislation protecting their rights looks in practice) ten years ago in one very significant case.
In May 2005, everyone was hearing the story of an 11-year-old girl being seduced by a 19-year-old man. A minor, Valya Isaeva, was admitted to the Family Planning Center with a threat of miscarriage and kidney problems right from the lesson at school. The girl was 30 weeks pregnant. As the doctors said, “She is not ready for childbirth, either physically or psychologically. The child's body does not tolerate pregnancy, the kidneys refuse to work, and she herself often cries. "

It quickly became clear that the father was a citizen of Tajikistan, Khabibula Patakhonov, who rented a room from the guardian Vali. The grandmother kept saying that her tenant was only 14 years old and she did not know about their relationship, but it was established that the "minor teenager" was not less than nineteen years old, and the prosecutor's office opened a criminal case. At the same time, as they say, at the suggestion of many officials, a beautiful fairy tale about modern “Romeo and Juliet” was launched into society, which was actively replicated and supported. Rallies were organized with demands to give the child to the father and leave the family alone. Naturally, no one was stopped by the warnings of some psychologists about the traumatic nature of the girl's so-called “love” for the rapist and hostage syndrome.
The former ombudsman for the rights of children in Moscow, Alexei Golovan, immediately demanded "to stop interfering in the life of a minor without the permission of her guardian." Deputy Alexander Chuev (by the way, one of the developers of the law "On Traditional Religious Organizations in the Russian Federation", although not adopted, but outlining the trend of admitting religion to education and the media) took the newly minted cell of society in the form of a pedophile and his victim under his protection: when two years later, the guardianship authorities and the press began to receive information that Khabib beats the girl, rapes, demands that she drop out of school, and lives off child allowance and his grandmother's pension, he promised to make every effort so that those who slandered Valya, her grandmother and the child's father ... would answer before the law.
The deputy was especially saddened that, being deprived of the society of the rapist and not becoming a mother at the age of 11, the girl’s mind will forever be hammered into the mind that to love, want a family, and have a child (and she was striving for this) is something terrible unnatural and illegal.

The current ombudsman for the rights of the child Pavel Astakhov also joined the case, at that time famous lawyer... Here is what he himself later said about this: “I have never been a lawyer for this young man, but then, in 2005, when this story happened, I stood up for the guys. They wanted to plant Valina's child's father, and what would happen then? Valya would have given birth, the child would have been sent to an orphanage, what would have happened to Valya is unknown. And so they already lived like a family, and there was no point in taking harsh measures against the guy, especially since then in the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation there was a clause exempting from responsibility for such crimes if people got married. And now the other day in children's world I met Valya Isaeva at the checkout, who said that everything was fine with them, the second child was born. This is an example of how it is necessary to resolve conflicts of this kind - not to follow the formal path, but to delve into the situation " . To complete the picture, one can cite his own statements that “modern Russian youths” reach “psychophysiological maturity” only by the age of 20. Until then, although they are able to commit various crimes, they still cannot "fully understand the nature and significance of the actions they commit and control them."

And the rapist himself put a lot of effort into his own salvation - he changed his last name (and at the same time the date of birth, having knocked off a couple of years), told a story about the alleged rape of Vali by some Armenian or Azerbaijani teenagers, from whom he unsuccessfully tried to protect her and, of course , told the court a sentimental version that the girl, who had been broken by the previous rape, wanted to and persuaded him: We were both a little drunk. We drank a little champagne. And I decided to give up. After all, virginity is still lost. Moreover, I was afraid of offending her.

As a result of all the manipulations Russian law on the seduction of minors in court was observed as gently as possible to the rapist: the Lublin court of Moscow sentenced a 22-year-old ( on that moment) a migrant worker from Tajikistan to three years probation, having found him guilty of seducing an 11-year-old girl who gave birth to a child from him, under Article 134 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation - "sexual intercourse and other sexual acts with a person under 16 years of age." A mitigating circumstance, the court considered Patakhonov's confession and the fact that he did not abandon the child, as well as his willingness to take care of the family.

After giving birth, the girl and her daughter were kidnapped by the grandmother and her father directly from the hospital. Officially, the father was on the wanted list at that moment, but the police for some reason "hesitated" to detain him, although he was not hiding. In the maternity hospital, the girl was constantly crying and shouting: "For God's sake, if you want to, I will write a rejection of this child, just let me go to Vladik!" (the Russian version of his name), which shocked the lady from the guardianship, who, apparently, was sure that the raped little girl, who gave birth from the rapist, should magically to show "maternal feelings", and had no idea about the everyday Stockholm syndrome, which childbirth and the presence of a child and a rapist only exacerbated.
The Commission on Minors' Affairs and Protection of Their Rights also did not notice anything unusual in creating a family where a child contacts a rapist: “Everything is fine in this family, finally leave them alone! Valyusha is an excellent student, communicates with peers and generally leads a lifestyle appropriate for her age. Antonina Aleksandrovna takes care of her granddaughter: Amina is a wonderful girl, developed, well-groomed. Khabib is working. He helps the Isaev family financially. He visits them strictly at the established hours, signed by him in a special agreement. The child's father strictly observes the court decision, we have no complaints against him. Our representative regularly visits the Isaevs' apartment. "

How exactly the court orders were followed can be understood from the words of Vali herself:
- Of course, all these years before the wedding, he lived with my grandmother, only we hid him! Well, think for yourself, what kind of money is needed to help me and my child, and to rent an apartment in Moscow!
- We would go right after the wedding ( to Khabib's parents in Dushanbe), but it was impossible - Khabib needs so many permits to leave Moscow! As a result, we flew to Dushanbe without the permission of any official bodies there. They call us the next day: "Congratulations, you are allowed to leave for Tajikistan!" And we laugh: "Thank you, of course, only we are already there!"

Regarding good studies and contacts with peers, there was something to tell to Val's classmates:
- She was quiet before, on her own mind, - said one of Isaeva's classmates. - And after giving birth to her with us as if it became completely uninteresting. From the fifth grade, she was not particularly interested in studies, she was average. Teachers strained her grades, pitied her. She had no friends.

The girl, her grandmother and the rapist were the heroes of numerous TV shows and reports for several years (and the adult participants also received monetary compensation and remuneration), where many "experts" diligently pretended that an 11-year-old girl could "by consent" and without losses for physical and mental health get pregnant, have a baby, and then spend your life with the abuser until, over time, they are forgotten. Judging by the latest

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Disputes about when to become a mother have always taken place. Someone says that 25-30 years - perfect timing, and some argue that given the possibilities modern medicine age is not that important.

For those who believe that it is better not to delay with this case and that the sooner the better, there are examples that show that there is still no need to rush.

In due time history 11-year-old Vali Isaeva shocked the whole country. This incident surprised all residents of the post-Soviet space.

Valentina Isaeva, who at the age of 11 gave birth to Khabiba Patakhonova, became the heroine of Dmitry Shepelev's program "Actually". She came to ask for help. Isaeva and her husband were once called modern Romeo and Juliet.

The girl became pregnant by a 17-year-old boy who came to Russia from Tajikistan to work. Then this story caused a huge resonance in society. The guy rented an apartment from Valina's grandmother. So they met.

For Antonina Alexandrovna, according to her, it was not clear how the little granddaughter ended up in the same bed with the young man. The lovers themselves said that when it came to sex, they could not even imagine that everything would end in pregnancy.

In 2005, the couple had a girl, Amina. After the incident, the court found the resident of Tajikistan guilty under Article 134 of the Criminal Code of Russia (on molestation of minors). The court sentenced him to three years of imprisonment, albeit conditionally.

And during pregnancy, Valya did not want to go to preservation, but her grandmother and the doctors persuaded her to go under the supervision of specialists, otherwise the baby might not be born.

When the girl turned 18, she officially married Khabib. In January 2013, the couple had a son, Amir.

The couple, famous throughout the country, took part in show "Actually"... Valentina Isaeva turned to Dmitry Shepelev for help. The young woman decided to reveal the shocking truth about family life and confessed to being beaten by her husband.

Valya decided to leave her husband, which she announced to the whole country on the air of Channel One. Isaeva said that she fears for her own life and the fate of her children. On the air of the program, Khabib admitted that he had repeatedly raised his hand against his wife.

Valentina Isaeva decided on a frank confession. She stated that for more than a year she has been in a relationship with a man who is ready to protect her.

“We have a difficult relationship. I'm afraid of you. I'm afraid it will get worse. I can not go on. I told you that I do not love you and will divorce you ", - Valya turned to Khabib.

Despite the fact that Khabib at the end of the program confessed his love for his wife, Valya was determined. Khabib insisted that the children stay with him. Sabina Pantus, the program expert, sharply answered the hero: “Who the children will be left with will be decided by the court, weighing all the grounds.

This is not for you to decide, Khabib. Not everything is solved with a fist, not everything is solved by aggression. And it was with your behavior that you led to this "... Patakhonov urged his wife to go home together, but Isaeva refused the offer: “I will no longer stay with this person, I will not go with him. I will return to the apartment when he leaves there ".

Not so long ago, the story of Vali Isaeva, who gave birth at the age of 11, again stirred up the public. In the program "Actually", the young woman admitted that for a year and a half she had been dating the chosen one who could protect her from her husband. According to Isaeva, her husband Khabib Patakhonov raised his hand to her. The couple have two children - a daughter and a four-year-old son.

Isaeva admitted that after participating in the TV show, Patakhonov took little Amir and did not allow his mother to see him. A 24-year-old woman appeared at the Let the Talk studio to talk about the deplorable situation in the family.

“I came to the studio today to ask for help to get my son back, I don’t know what happened to him for a whole week, I’m on the phone all day. He says he will take him to Tajikistan, stole the birth certificate, took all my money, I don't know where my son is, ”Valya said through tears.

She said that she now lives with her sister, because, according to her, her husband does not let her go home, although he asks to return. Valya does not know where her son is, since her grandmother claims that only her daughter is in the apartment.

“I went to visit a friend,” said Khabib. - I myself did not get out of the car for two days, worked and slept in the car. It was hard for me, I couldn't go anywhere. "

Isaeva admitted that the scandals in her family began after the birth of her second child. At that time, the man did not work because he did not have documents. A citizen of Tajikistan only has a residence permit - the grandmother registered the granddaughter's wife in the apartment. When a colleague at work called Vale, Khabib heard male voice and hit his wife in the face with his fist, suspecting treason. Isaeva admitted that for three and a half hours he beat her with everything that came to hand. Now she wants a divorce and return home.

Khabib Patakhonov appeared in the studio and immediately made a complaint. “Why are you making a scapegoat out of me, you would behave normally,” the man said and said where the child was. “I didn’t steal it, he went to visit with me.”

Valya admitted that her husband asked him to Russian citizenship then he will give her a divorce. Khabib also doubts paternity. He is alarmed by Amir's blonde hair.

Came to protect Valya new lover- Victor Popov. He presented the chosen one with a bouquet, and the woman's husband hit him from the back. Dmitry Borisov hastened to come to the rescue. The man admitted that he loves Isaeva very much, but did not immediately find out about the two children and the official marriage.

“I want to go to Kabardino-Balkaria. I work as a mechanic at the Gazprom plant, ”said the man.

Valya said that after the divorce she was ready to let her husband see the children. A 13-year-old daughter appeared in the studio, however, the spouses did not hesitate to swear in front of the child

“I don’t love him very much, honestly,” the girl said.