A low timbre of voice is usually associated with a man, a high one with a woman. However, until recently, it was believed that the representatives of the stronger sex are more "greedy" for low female voices - they say, they seem more sexual. However, specific Scientific research prove the opposite: after all, men find ladies with high voices more attractive. Why?

Hormones determine a lot in our appearance and body. So, testosterone is responsible for masculine appearance and behavior, and estrogen is responsible for feminine features. It is an excess of testosterone that makes the voice low, and an excess of estrogen - high. If a man has a high timbre of voice, and a woman has a low one, this may indicate that more hormones of the opposite sex have accumulated in their body than necessary. Thus, if we hear a high voice, we subconsciously associate it with femininity.

Studies conducted by experts at the University of Vienna have shown that men find the voices of women with a beautiful appearance more attractive.

Male volunteers were given voice recordings of 42 female students, whose photographs were available to the researchers, and asked to choose the sexiest among them. Most of the subjects chose voices that belonged to girls with an attractive appearance, without even seeing their faces.

In most cases, these were faces with symmetrical features, high cheekbones, soft jawlines and full lips. In addition, these girls had a traditional high "female" voice timbre.

Experts believe that a person's appearance depends on the genotype and hormonal status, which also affect the structure of the larynx, vocal cords and nasal cavity. As a rule, feminine appearance correlates with a high voice timbre. And when a man hears such a voice, it subconsciously signals to him that a woman's sexuality is in perfect order, which means that she is suitable for the role of a sexual partner and mother of children.

Doctor Yi Xu from London university college and his colleagues found that people perceive low voices as belonging to larger individuals, while high ones are associated with small body sizes.

Scientists conducted an experiment in which they asked volunteers of both sexes to evaluate voices, the timbres of which were intentionally changed in advance. As a result, men rated as more attractive high-pitched female voices, in which there was a hoarseness and a wide range of sound vibrations. [S-BLOCK]

Experts believe that evolution has influenced our perception of voices. Previous studies have shown that animals often rely on the frequency, timbre, and vibration of the sounds they make to obtain information about other individuals. So, if an individual emits a low growl, this most often means that it is large predator that could pose a threat. And sounds at a high frequency usually indicate small size and lack of danger.

As for people, the high sonorous voice in our minds should belong to a weak, defenseless and most often young girl. If the lady has a low, deep voice, then she may turn out to be a large and, possibly, no longer young person, from whom aggression can theoretically come. Therefore, men subconsciously try to avoid such women.

What voices do men like?

Romantic ideas about the perfect couple draw us a tall man with a low, hoarse voice, and a fragile woman with a high, gentle voice. This picture has a real biological basis. According to statistics, men with deep voices have large quantity children than "tenors": with an increase in testosterone levels in men, the tone of voice decreases. In women, during ovulation (that is, at a time favorable for conception), the general tone of the voice rises (as a result of an increase in the level of estradiol, the female sex hormone). That is, by virtue of ancient natural laws, women subconsciously look for partners with a low voice, and men are “drawn” to the owners of high voices.

And (oh, how often I hear this!) men break their voices, trying to sound lower, “sexier”, and women, in the presence of a potential partner, unconsciously “raise” their voice. But the result, alas, most often does not meet expectations. A man who artificially lowers his natural tone of voice looks ridiculous: such attempts to give himself masculinity are like the desire of a frog to swell up to the size of an ox, and can only cause a smile in women.

And an artificially high female voice, as a rule, irritates men: instead of “cute chirping”, you get lisping, and hysteria is heard in rising intonations. How to bring your voice closer to the “ideal”, so that it attracts, rather than repels your partner?

First of all, allow yourself to speak naturally. What does your voice sound like when you sigh in relief, or moan, or yawn? This is your natural voice: get used to it! Perhaps you don’t like it, it seems “rude”, not “corresponding to standards”, but when you believe that this is your voice, it will already be possible to “agree” with it. Teach him to obey, to sound louder, quieter, higher, lower, louder, more transparent ... A natural voice will never cause irritation or ridicule in your interlocutor, because he, the voice, is a reflection of your soul, broadcasts your openness, sincerity, readiness for contact.

Can you change your voice? (voice exercises)

Change - no, adjust - yes.

How technically to achieve such a sound?

1. Hold your palms in front of your open mouth and, as in the cold, warm them with your breath: the hotter your breath, the more your larynx is open and, accordingly, the closer access to the lower resonators, which give depth and volume to your voice. Do not try to breathe loudly and strongly, let your breath be light and hot.

2. Then, keeping the same feeling, add some sound to the breath. Gradually turn up the volume as long as the warm breath persists.

4. When you master this exercise, add separate syllables to the voice stream, for vowels O, A, then E, U, I. Do not forget about " hot spring»!

5. And finally, move on to words and phrases. Your speech will be not only gentle, but deep and melodious.

Give your voice at least ten minutes a day, and the result will not be slow to affect. A voice filled with breath sounds penetrating, echoes in the depths of your interlocutor's consciousness, awakens feelings and desires, remains in memory for a long time, along with the words that he utters.

Of course, in addition to breathing, its timbre, intonation, and rhythm of speech are no less important for the sexual attractiveness of the voice. Having mastered the whole complex of voice skills, you will not only increase your “sexual rating”, but also acquire a powerful communication tool - for love, for business, for understanding yourself as a full-fledged person.

How to please the man of your dreams?

By ear. Develop your ear, and you will be able to hear his speech, like a song, "learn" it and sing it to him, but with your own voice!
Hear how he speaks: at what pace, how often he pauses, what intonations he uses, how smooth his speech is, how and where he puts accents ....
If you can hear this, adjust the natural sound of your voice to this tempo, rhythm, intonation ....
And a beautiful stranger will in some unknown way feel that he knows you, as if, a long time ago, almost like himself, he will feel affection and trust and will certainly want to continue communication!

It is believed that men love low female voices. That's what the statistics say. However, a small survey conducted among my acquaintances suggests that a low voice is different for a low voice. So, despite the obvious advantages of the appearance of Elizaveta Boyarskaya, her voice attracts few people. Moreover, most men would have made their choice not in favor of such a woman precisely because of the unattractive voice. So what should a real woman sound like?
Psychologists believe that a woman's voice can tell a man a lot about her character and personality. This is not always true, but a certain image, nevertheless, develops. What can a woman's voice say to a man?
The low female voice is different. There are women with vocal cord problems or just smoky voices. Such men do not like unequivocally, simply because they sound the same as men. However, if a woman is the owner of a velvet voice, then she can consider herself truly fatal. After all, such a voice speaks of the self-sufficiency, strength and self-confidence of its mistress. It is difficult to possess such a woman, so a hunter wakes up in a man, and he begins to actively pursue her.
Like it very much men so-called "wet" voices. It is impossible to speak loudly and quickly with such a voice; it sounds beautiful only with slow, quiet speech, even with a whisper. This voice is truly feminine, it excites and lulls at the same time.
Also seduce a representative of the strong half of humanity maybe a breathy voice. Such a voice tells a man that he is desirable, that a woman is in a relationship, that she is ready for sensual love. This is the voice from sexual overtones, which cannot be unpleasant for a man.
High female voice adorns not every woman. And not every man is ready to perceive such a voice. Indeed, for many, a subconsciously high voice is associated with youth and immaturity, and therefore unpreparedness for adult relationships. However, if a man is set to communicate with an infantile girl and is ready to take responsibility for her, then a woman with such a voice will evoke only positive emotions in him.
Loud, harsh, staccato voice does not call anyone positive emotions. So, for example, psychologists say that it is precisely children's and women's voices that are distinguished by loudness and sharpness that can cause panic in the crowd. This is how a man perceives a woman with a loud voice. It is impossible to relax with her, you cannot find peace, she does not cause passionate sexual desire. So if you are not too lucky with your voice, you should work on it.

How to develop a voice that will become your faithful companion in conquering a man?

Teachers of speech technique advise doing a few simple exercises in order to develop a beautiful voice.
For a start it's worth work on your body- after all, it is his stiffness that causes the tightness of the vocal cords. Stressed shoulders and neck, poor posture, chronic diseases - all this prevents your voice from breaking out. Do not forget about the importance of physical exercise - daily simple exercises Stretching will help you relax your thoracic spine and pressure on your vocal cords. All this will allow your voice to sound softer and more sensual.
Sing! After all, singing not only relieves accent and speech problems (stuttering, for example), but also perfectly releases your true voice. If possible, take some vocal lessons - experienced teacher show you breathing exercises. And do not forget to start every day with a song - this way you will “cleanse” speech apparatus, "wake up" the ligaments and all day you do not have to clear your throat before starting a conversation.
Read aloud good books . Voice the dialogues of lovers, trying to breathe life into them and your understanding of love. Alone with yourself, you will be able to translate into reality your idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe ideal voice, of how, in your opinion, a true declaration of love should sound. And only then, having practiced, it will be much easier for you to reproduce all this in reality - including in your own relationships.
Adjust the volume of your own voice. Do not speak too quietly - this is considered a sign of bad tone and disrespect for the interlocutor. At the same time, talking too loudly will alienate your counterpart and will not give you the opportunity to create the necessary intimacy and trust. So you should pay attention to the volume with which your interlocutor is talking and try to adjust to it. However, it is still better for a woman to speak a little quieter than a man, making the conversation pleasant and smooth.

To each his own approach

Each man is unique and requires a separate approach. Enchant different men you are unlikely to succeed in one way, so take a closer look at your potential companion.
A strong man can please a weak woman It makes sense, because opposites attract. And your voice will help you seem weak - speak quietly, smoothly, making pauses. Do not use obscene language, try not to raise your voice in any situation. A whisper, a quiet iridescent laugh, affectionate words - all this cannot be a truly strong man.
A soft and docile man requires a completely different approach. It is easier for him to feel that he is nearby woman you can trust who can take care and provide support. In this case, it is worth acting in contrast - if he speaks softly and smoothly, a woman needs to be able to clearly articulate her thoughts, not be afraid of specific expressions and power in her voice. All behavior show self-confidence, emotional stability and harmony with the outside world. In a word - do not be afraid to show maternal instinct, this is actually nothing special, because no one is forcing you to become a real mother to him, just be prepared to meet the needs of a man who is dear to you.
In a word, if you do not want to become a chronic disappointment for your man, or for a man who is deeply sympathetic to you, work on your own voice - let it be strong weapon in the matter of seduction.

About how to charm a man by just talking to him, when and how to be silent, why a woman’s voice should be “padded with velvet” and what voices annoy men, a well-known psychologist told Annetta Orlova who wrote a monograph on the subject.

If our soul is reflected in the eyes, then the voice is a mirror of character. Intonation can color speech with warm shades of joy and self-confidence, or add cold notes of arrogance and selfishness to what has been said. Therefore, not only what you say is important, but also how you sound.

Despite the fact that women love with their ears, the voice of the interlocutor for a man is also important. A pleasant speech melody will not leave the listener indifferent, the timbre of the voice will complement and complete the image.

For different voices...

There is an opinion that a low voice sounds more pleasant and sexier, it seems that the writer also thought so. Brendan Francis Bian. He said that men will always admire a woman whose voice is lined with velvet. Indeed, falling in love with the owner of a deep voice is not difficult, since her speech is saturated with self-sufficiency, strength and confidence. Such a woman looks inaccessible, it is not surprising that the instinct of a hunter wakes up in men and there is a desire to possess her.

Besides, an aspirated voice will help excite a man. Whatever the girl is talking about, the words intertwined with the breath will tell the listener that he is interested in her sexually.

For those with a high voice less fortunate, since piercing notes are often associated with interlocutors with youth and immaturity. But in the event that a man plays the role of a father in a relationship, a girl with a high voice will be an ideal companion for him.

Loud and harsh voice evokes opposite associations. Most often, the owners of such a voice tend to control others, they want to control and command. This option, most likely, is suitable for a man who has forever remained a child, he will feel in a woman with such a voice the support that is so necessary for him.

On the first date

A meek girl can easily charm a strong man, and the melody of her voice will help to emphasize her desire to be protected. On a date, it is better to speak quietly and measuredly., maintain semantic pauses, use adjectives and metaphors, exclude harsh words and phrases. It is also necessary to monitor your facial expressions and gestures, they should complement speech, and not conflict with it. It can be a downcast look, smooth and not too active hand movements. But a woman's voice should not be lifeless. A man's attention will be attracted by light emotionality and freshness in the speech of the interlocutor.

If a woman wants to charm a soft and docile man, then she needs to emphasize her strength. Speech in this case should be clear, clear and even overly emotional, and the look of such an interlocutor should express self-confidence. You definitely don’t need to look at the pattern on the floor in a cafe, as well as fiddling with a napkin during a conversation.

By the way, Patricia Kaas- the owner of a sexy, bewitching voice - gesticulates quite actively and sharply, her gait conflicts with her voice, which breaks the unity of the impression. She is a prime example of how non-verbal communication can clash with the melody of the voice.


In a conversation with a man of dreams, it is important to keep track of time and do not forget about pauses.. It has been proven that a man can listen to the interlocutor's speech for no more than 20 seconds, everything that is said after this time he will either not perceive, or (even worse) will begin to get annoyed. However, compliments uttered in a soft and sexy voice, the man does not get tired of listening.

Anyway, to hook a man, you need to be able not only to speak, but also to listen to him. Embed constructions such as “I understand you”, “I am so interested with you”, “I like listening to your stories” in your speech. In addition, it is necessary to remember the words and phrases that he uses and sometimes pronounce them. And if a man asks: “What was I talking about?”, try to repeat the end of the phrase, he will appreciate how carefully you listened to him.

Uncertain speech is annoying

It is rather difficult for an insecure woman to attract the attention of men, things are even worse if a girl is used to complaining about her life. Naturally, the intonation will immediately reveal all the problems of the mistress of the voice.
For example, drawling sounds, slurred speech or stammering are signs that a woman needs constant care from her companion. It is likely that the first conversation with a man will be the last.

Assertiveness, turning into strong aggression, and masculine notes in the voice women will also cause negative emotions in men, after all, they are looking for tenderness and care in us.

Rapid active speech makes the voice fill with harsh undertones, it is tiring - it is not very pleasant to endure stress for a long time.
A real man will always gravitate towards a soft woman, whose speech and plasticity are soft. If a woman has a low voice, then the whole world is in her pocket.

Working on mistakes: exercises for voice and speech

“If beautiful voices were sold in supermarkets, they would have many buyers. It’s a pity that they haven’t thought of this yet, ”said the magnificent Marlene Dietrich. Can you imagine what a queue would be lined up for a soft, velvety voice? But while there is no such product on the shelves of supermarkets, you can work on your intonation and speech on your own.

The shackled body is a real prison for a soft voice. Therefore, first of all, you need to remove all the clamps, allow your body to open up. The released sexual energy will rise up the spinal column and allow the voice to sound softer and more attractive. They will help to get rid of the shackles of the body, dancing classes: the body will become more flexible, movements - plastic, and the voice is sexier.


Take some vocal lessons, experienced teacher will show you the basics of correct breathing and remove the clamps that prevent your voice from sounding melodious. Start your day with a good gentle song performed by you and dance to the sound of your own voice!


Intonation helps us to convey the idea to the interlocutor, if we speak monotonously, on one note, the listener will stop perceiving the information. But in this matter, nowhere without training. For practice, take a few minutes and read excerpts from books. Take, for example, Bunin's stories about love, voice the dialogues of the characters with a gentle voice and, with a romantic mood, go out to meet your love now.

From the volume of your voice depends on how the interlocutor will perceive you, so you need to adjust it. Say the numbers from one to ten at different volumes and determine which sound is best for you. But remember that if you are in a noisy place, the volume must be increased, otherwise the interlocutor will regard your quiet speech as disrespectful to himself.

Learn to clearly articulate your thoughts, then you will create the impression of a self-confident woman. Rehearse in front of a mirror, watch your gestures, control them, because fussy hand movements will betray your self-doubt.

Look at how the cat moves(this is the most attractive image for men). Imagine yourself as a catwoman and try to make your gestures just as graceful. Waking up, gently, like a cat, stretch in bed. When preparing breakfast, move like a cat, for example, walk slightly on tiptoe - this will add softness to your body, and therefore your voice. If your voice lacks sexuality, try purring and meowing every morning.