Surely, everyone is familiar with the situation when the daily routine is so annoying that more and more thoughts about cardinal changes in life appear. And first of all, it concerns the disgusting place of work, which is perceived as hard labor. What to do if every morning brings only negativity and you don’t feel like going to your work post at all? How to find a field of activity where you can combine worthy remuneration and complete satisfaction?

I don't like my job - what to do

If you decide to ask your friends and acquaintances about whether they like their work, then you will understand that you are far from alone in wanting to change something in your life. Many perceive this as a duty that has to be performed only because of money, which leads to constant stress and professional burnout. Perhaps some tips will help you make the right decision and improve the situation:

  • The first step is a gap analysis. Think about what annoys you the most in it - unpleasant colleagues, annoying clients or a paper routine? This understanding will be a decisive moment on the path to change.
  • In this case, a constructive and maximally reasoned dialogue with the management is necessary, because it is the conversation that can help get rid of shortcomings in your work. During the conversation, try not to blame anyone and be ready to accept new powers and responsibilities.
  • Try to change the approach to the problems that arise in the process of work, perceive them as a kind of challenge. Criticism of the authorities and misunderstanding with colleagues sometimes becomes a powerful incentive, an opportunity to improve oneself and look for new areas of activity.
  • Do something interesting or find a hobby in your free time, your favorite activity will become an outlet and help relieve stress.
  • A good alternative would be physical exercise and sports, which not only distract from negative thoughts, but also bring the spirit and body into good shape, give a positive charge of energy.
  • Pay attention to the people around you. If colleagues constantly express dissatisfaction with the amount of work and low salary, the general mood will involuntarily be transmitted to you. Do not let yourself be influenced, do not agree to fulfill other people's duties and assignments.
  • Think about the pleasant moments associated with the current place of work - good experience, decent salary, invaluable knowledge.

How to change jobs

Before you do file your resignation letter with your boss and post your resume, please read the following information to help mitigate the risk negative consequences to the minimum:


How to find a job you like

A job to your liking is an activity that, above all, brings joy, pleasure and satisfaction in all respects. It is not difficult for you to get up in the morning, because something new and interesting awaits you ahead, which will allow you to keep your mood at a high level throughout the day. However, not everyone is so lucky, many people long years tormented over the answer, how to find a job to their liking.


How to find your calling

For most, it becomes a serious problem to find yourself in life, being already in adulthood, they think about who they want to be and what their true calling is.

  • Absolutely, you have a certain ability or inclination to some kind of activity. Perhaps you just forgot what you were fond of before. Take the time to make a list of all the hobbies that you enjoyed. If there are several of them, choose the one that is closer.
  • Think about what worries you the most in life, it is this that can become a vocation and a link between pleasure and professional activity.
  • We are what we read. A few points of your favorite authors and works will reveal you in a new way.
  • Often what we dream about in childhood is a true reflection of personality. No matter how fabulous children's dreams are, they can be translated into reality by interpreting in your own way.
  • Decide what you are interested in learning and what to learn. Don't stop until you've thoroughly explored these topics.
  • Throw away all fears, insecurities and prejudices, they prevent us from achieving what we want.
  • On the path to happiness, free up time for the most important things by giving up on secondary things.

It so happened in my life that, having left my previous job, I was looking for a new one for a very long time. 7.5 months have passed since the announcement of the decision to leave before entering a new place. How I looked for a job and what I took into account when choosing is a separate question. The important thing is that I work in middle management positions in the IT field, so I didn’t rush into any job and chose the best of what was. I must say, in the end, and the only thing. Having worked quite a bit at the moment, I wondered if I had chosen in the end what I wanted? Answer: no! I am not satisfied with everything in my work! What is wrong? What are the reasons for my incomplete satisfaction?

1. Lost sense of significance

I must say that life forced me to start a career actually anew. I went to the position of an ordinary project manager, with promises, in case of success, further growth and advancement. So the first thing that hit me was a sense of significance. I do not consider myself a selfish person, however, the feeling of Ego is in everyone. For me, this is precisely a sense of significance, and not pride, although, of course, they are strongly connected. The sense of significance depends on the scale of the tasks being solved. An important component of the scale is whether the tasks being solved affect the execution of the company's strategy or at least your division. Here my reality faced hard losses. I manage a regular project with big product, along which dozens of projects are running simultaneously.

2. Narrowed functionality

The second thing that makes me dissatisfied is the functionality. Basically, my functions as a leader have always been the same - to achieve results from people in your linear and matrix subordination. And here I clearly realized that linear subordination is more important for me than matrix subordination, and the project manager has people only in matrix subordination.

3. Independence in managing priorities has disappeared

Break number three. Manage your own priorities. The higher the level of the leader, the greater the ability to manage them. The lower, the greater the dependence on the tasks of the authorities, although we all have a boss. Working at high-level positions, you get a task at the top level, decompose it, then distribute it among people and control it. As a project manager, you mainly receive tasks and implement the will of the project (the will of the boss). Perhaps I am exaggerating, and now they will tell me that the project manager has complete freedom of will, the main thing is to achieve the goal of the project and solve project tasks. Everything is so and not so. I'm only talking about my own difference in feelings between the position of middle-manager and project-manager. Everything is relative.

The second dependency in priority management is timing: the lower the position level, the less flexibility in timing. Of course, by this we mean in man full feeling responsibility for their results, regardless of the position level.

4. The feeling of freedom has disappeared

Factor four. Ease or ease in work. I can already hear your voices - snickering! There is no ease or tension in any work, everywhere you have to work for the result! That's right, the main thing here is your attitude to it, but flexibility is also needed. When you are a high-level boss, you have a lot of free will, if you want - you do it, if you want - you postpone it. This is clearly less in RP, although flexibility is present.

But is everything as bad as I draw?! And more importantly, how to live harmoniously with this?! Do not fight, do not exist, but live harmoniously! Your inner always determines the outer. The world is what you make it for yourself! The recipes are:

  • To feel your importance, achieve your goals. Get the results you want at work. And people will respect you! And through respect you gain significance! Of course, ideally, the feeling of significance should be completely removed, because this is just one of the manifestations of your ego. You shouldn't depend on someone else's judgment, you shouldn't judge others, and you shouldn't even judge yourself. Analyze - yes, but do not evaluate! But this is the highest Zen, the path to it is a separate topic for conversation. So, just do it, without thinking, good or bad, just do it! And the results will come. And with them respect and a sense of significance.
  • Functional. You are not a sewer operator, is this good news? Of course, joyful! You are not a janitor! Also good! Yes, you are an employee and must do what you are told. So do it with interest! Show sincere interest in everything you want! Be interested, understand, understand! And the functionality will not be very important to you. You will see your development, your progress in learning something new, in the knowledge gained. And also in the new skills you get! And from the feeling of progress inside you there is also an interest in work, which allows you to treat your functions as something that is simply given to you, as your current reality, and enjoy it. Rejoice in what you have been given! Regret for what you don't have is a dead end that only leads to your mental suffering. Do you want to be happy? Of course you do! So treat what is given to you with interest, rejoice and enjoy. And if a task is not interesting, just do it and move on to the next one. Without hesitation!
  • Managing your own priorities and tasks. The recipe is similar. Thank the universe for everything that happens! The universe has given you the opportunity to meet new people, get acquainted! You got the opportunity to study MS Project in detail, so use it! These are opportunities that you have the right to use for yourself in the future. This is your asset! Accept any variant of events that occurs. Even if the events seem unfavorable to you, this is your lesson. It is difficult to learn through positivity, sometimes you need a kick in the ass to learn a lesson. And it’s not your boss who actually asks you, but you yourself: did I do what I need in this life or just flush it down the toilet? The choice is yours!
  • Lightness and tension. I will disappoint you, of course, lightness and ease are a myth! External lightness and ease! No one just pays money for nothing! But your inner lightness and ease is a reality that you yourself can form for yourself or not. Classic cocktail recipe: Treat work like play. Play it, don't perform it. Not in the sense of fictitious results, but in the sense of the approach. Are you interested in winning the game? Are you passionate? Act like in a game, be interested, get carried away and win. And even if you temporarily lose, it's just a game. And there is no disaster! There is, of course, a recipe for professionals, but a difficult one for a few. Be an observer. Not in the sense of doing nothing, and not associating yourself with failures and with success too! What is an observer? Imagine you are driving in a traffic jam, long, dreary, everything irritates, infuriates. Did you feel? And now you're flying a plane over a traffic jam, and it seems to you distant, peaceful and insignificant. The same event, but completely different attitude to him. Similarly: there is a role that you play at work, and there is you who. You are simply passionate as a spectator, regardless of the outcome of the game.

Of course, there may be more factors that do not suit you in your work, they may be completely different. I analyzed only my condition, only my factors, and I hope you will find useful feedback on them and recipes on how to work with them. There are many positive aspects in my work: I am satisfied with the money I receive, I got what I wanted; a sane, reasonable boss who has a lot to learn from; the opportunity to build a career; Energetic young team with whom it is pleasant to communicate; cool office and more. I am happy with what I have, I live in the present, I hope for the best that a career will develop in a new place, money will grow, I will feel my own significance ... At the same time, I am ready for the fact that the outcome of the game can be anything, I always have the right to change it or play.

Rejoice in what you have, strive for the best, but always be prepared for any eventuality, accept them with gratitude!

Since the text touches on very personal issues, the editors of Executive.ru decided to publish the material as an exception without attribution.

In fact, few of us can boast that the work gives him pleasure. Falling in love with her is not as easy as it might seem at first glance. Most people live simply by inertia, not striving for anything new and not trying to discover some amazing peaks and talents in themselves. Being “like everyone else” is convenient and familiar: you don’t need to strain yourself unnecessarily and make significant efforts to implement your plans, endure significant inconvenience, go through tangible difficulties. Psychologists note that many people daily suffer from unloved work. They have to endure Bad mood boss, unbearable working conditions. Often gossip of colleagues is added here, conflict situations and the need to get up at dawn. It is not always necessary to immediately rush to look for a new place of employment. Sometimes you need to think for a while, comprehend what is happening, and only then take concrete actions. Otherwise, you can get yourself into big trouble, which will take a long time to deal with.

If you don’t like the work, you definitely need to understand the situation, and not silently endure it, hoping for a miracle. You should resort to changing activities only when you are confident in yourself and are ready to go to the end in order to overcome the difficulties that arise. Below are actionable advice psychologist, helping to understand what to pay close attention to in solving this issue.

Analysis of the situation

He will help to understand the existing problem, although he will not tell you how to love what you devote a lot of time to. Psychologists note the need to approach as frankly as possible to own life and try to understand yourself. Try to be honest with yourself next questions: what makes you so sad, sad at work? Perhaps there are no prospects for professional growth and development? Or haunted by a small salary? In some cases, there is a relationship problem with colleagues. If you were unable to join new team, it will be very difficult to work. V professional life Employees are very dependent on each other and on their superiors. Understanding yourself is very important. After all, otherwise you will not be able to realize what to start from and where to look for a solution. Falling in love with routine work is not easy. You need to understand what you want in the end.

No need to be ashamed of your material problems. Everyone, to the extent possible, should think about himself, about how to feel as comfortable and easy as possible. No one will offer you to solve existing problems in one fell swoop and will not take responsibility for your actions.

Find an interesting hobby

Probably, no one will argue with the fact that a hobby can prolong a person's life, bring a new special meaning to it. Psychologists have found that rainbow fullness appears when a person knows where to draw inspiration and positive from. Unfortunately, not all people know how to address the origins of their individuality. This will not help you fall in love with a hated job, but you will have a kind of outlet that will give you strength and confidence. Psychologists advise to devote more time to yourself instead of trying to please others. An interesting hobby will help you save energy after a busy day. labor day and don't waste them.

What can you do? Anything to make your soul happy. Drawing, writing stories, reading interesting literature or embroidery. In addition, an interesting business will help motivate yourself for further victories and achievements. Man, in essence, is able to achieve whatever he wants.

Sports

Movement is life. Sport not only develops physically, but also allows you to develop character. Walking in the fresh air, playing basketball or volleyball are very useful. Biking or skating will bring mass positive emotions especially if it gives you pleasure. Sports activities give positive energy, namely, it needs to be saved and increased when things at work are categorically not encouraging. Falling in love with work that does not bring pleasure is not an easy task. It will take a lot of strength and patience, but sports can help. It is known that by resorting to physical activity, people manage to cope with stress and overcome the feeling of hopelessness. Psychologists advise turning to sports as often as possible in order to overcome the bad mood resulting from gray and monotonous everyday life every day.

Plans for the future

To make it easier for you to keep working, you need to always have an end goal in front of you. How do you see the result of your efforts? Try to determine this in advance so that you can move forward in a planned way and not get upset because of an unsatisfactory position at work. For example, if you tell yourself that I don't like my job, then it means that you should look for any opportunities today that will help correct the situation. The least of all is to try to immediately look for another type of employment, especially since new job will not always meet your expectations. When you have a very clear and understandable goal in front of your eyes, it remains only to go towards it in small steps every day. It is worth to suffer some nuances in the workplace, if it is necessary for your future. Who knows how the future will turn out? Maybe your colleagues and bosses will come in handy more than once. Psychologists recommend not breaking off business relationships, they may still come in handy someday.

Work environment

If you cannot fall in love with what you have to do every day, try to diversify your gray everyday life as much as possible. You can change your office. If you don’t have it, then at least put things differently on your desktop, arrange all the necessary accessories in a way that is convenient for you. The advice of a psychologist will help you decide in this difficult but important matter. To feel as comfortable as possible, organize everything so that you feel good and comfortable in the first place. Sometimes interesting objects help to cope with the monotony and feeling of oppression. Bright, lively atmosphere will bring new emotions. Sometimes you can fall in love with your work if you try to see only positive aspects in it.

Thus, every problem has its own solution. To make the working day at least minimally comfortable, you just need to learn to look positively at familiar things, not to wind yourself up in vain.

27.03.2015

This little note is written for those who do not like what they are doing. Those who are satisfied with everything can not read, but send the link to their friends who might be interested.

Many of us sooner or later think about what to do in such a way that we like it. This means that the work that is now something does not suit you, you do not like it. And this is the place where a person spends most of his time, especially in the metropolis. Many know firsthand how this affects physical, mental and energy health. Many of these "knowers" live on the brink of depression. And often because:

Don't know what to do
Or they know that they can’t do anything else that could bring prosperity.

Item number 1 is formed from the fact that people are not used to thinking about themselves. They may know what someone else needs from their actions: parents, children, management, friends, company, city. "What do they want?" - sometimes a very difficult question for them.

Point number 2 is formed from long-term training in one narrow specialty. The world is multifaceted and it is not necessary to cram it only into economics, marketing or jurisprudence. Life consists not only of these categories. I know that people who think this way, besides their diploma profession, can do a lot more.

Great option: do what you like.

Instead of sitting at the computer, TV, in a cafe after work, do something for the Soul, that is, something that gives you Joy.

If it’s still not at all clear what to do, start doing what you liked as a child:

- sew, knit, embroider;

- sing, dance, play musical instruments;

- write small notes, poems, stories, fairy tales, books;

- organize interesting events;

- draw, photograph;

- breed animals or help animals;

- plant flowers, grow fruits, vegetables, trees - what the land area allows;

- to cook;

– sports, yoga, qigong and other practices

- walk in nature, contemplate nature

- travel (even if it will be a trip to the nearest city)

- someone likes electronics

- Interior Design, landscape design

- you can do "amateur" science: conduct independent research on any topic that interests you: astronomy, astrology, ethnography, psychology, local history, languages ​​or any other direction.

- Clay modeling, wood carving, stone work.

- and much more can be written in the comments.

To get started, just do free time something for yourself, for the Soul, something that you will like.

Perhaps your new activity will cause misunderstanding and ridicule of relatives and friends, BUT IT IS IMPORTANT that this does not cause doubts in you. Like it - do it, don't like it - don't do it. Look for what you like.

Sometimes my desires are driven so deep that it is difficult even for myself to see them and admit to myself: I want to do this. And it does not matter that it is not fashionable, not prestigious, and so far they do not pay money for it.

If you need it, then it will be demanded by other people. But this is a matter of time. Even if not immediately, but after several months or years, the important thing here is that thanks to this hobby, you are in Joy and Harmony. After all, in order to work at an unloved job, you had to study for at least 5 years, so take the time to learn what you love. Many expect that in one day it will be immediately clear and understandable what to do. Such cases exist, but rarely. Most often you need to learn to listen and hear yourself, and this takes some time. Just like when a child learns to walk or talk. He is acquiring a new skill. Listening and hearing yourself is also a skill, so take your time. Learn consistently and calmly

Read books on this topic, watch films, you can go to courses or master classes, learn from other people who already know and know how to do this more than you do.

It is very important to do it! The main obstacles can be fear (it will not work out what they will think of me), insecurity (almost the same as fear) and laziness.

It is also worth working with these comrades, they did not interfere on the Path.

Start doing at least something and the result will be.
It's hard to know what you want to do. Sometimes there is simply no favorite thing, hobbies, because there is no time for it.

And in order for it to still appear, you need to find this very time in your schedule, set priorities.

Maybe not to go to the cinema, to a cafe, not to watch TV, but to devote time to your occupation. After all, each person organizes his day based on his priorities. Sometimes you can see a simple imitation of vigorous vigorous activity, which leads only to visibility and fatigue of the worker. Sometimes laziness is masked behind such activities. If you are really interested in the question of what to do, then first you need to find those activities, things for the Soul, that is, what brings Joy.

1. Write a list of such mental affairs. How more themes it is better. In this list, you can include what you do not yet know how, but what you want to learn.

2. Start doing 1-3 things from this list for yourself, without thinking about money. At least at first. Just by doing what you like, you get a huge bonus - the restoration of mental, mental strength. And it's worth it.

3. At this stage, you should not program yourself that this business will be forever, as is typical for many. Perhaps the development of skills and abilities in the directions you have chosen now will lead you to something new, open horizons, doors to new areas of your activity.

4. No need to laugh at your own desires and consider stupidity what you like to do. If you yourself do not take your studies seriously, then what do you expect from the world around you? Surely, approval, support, understanding? So give it to yourself first. And then the world will also take care of you.

5. Remove fear from your life: fear of failure, mistakes, uncertainty... He has one nature - it slows down activity, destroys the body.

You should stop “feeding” fear and pay more attention and strength to what you are doing.

Imagine that fears are on one side of the scale, and the desire to engage in spiritual affairs is on the other? Which bowl outweighs? You can mentally put weights on the second scale in the form of confidence and what you yourself want. Play with it. And one more thing: laughter and a sense of humor help to cope with fear.

6. Being engaged in a business that you like at least a few hours a week, sooner or later it will begin to generate income. On average, it takes 1-3 years. And this, by the way, is not as long as it seems. Indeed, in order to receive a salary, many had to study for at least three years.

Doing what you don’t want is violence against yourself, which leads to mental pain and physical illness.

It is better not to bring yourself to such a state and do regular prevention in the form of favorite activities for the Soul

Altynnikova Ekaterina