Often, the obstacles that prevent us from achieving our goals or getting better are only in our head. Consciousness determines how we behave in difficult situations, whether we cope with fear, succeed or fail. Therefore, it needs to be changed.

How to think positively

4. Be persistent and determined

If you give up, you will go back to the beginning and once again become a hostage to fixed thinking. Think about what work has already been done.

How to tune in to the abundance mindset

People with a deficit mindset think that there are not enough resources for everyone. Stephen Covey makes an interesting analogy in Being, Not Seeming.

People with a deficit mindset are convinced that there is only one pie in the world and that if someone takes a piece, they will get less. This attitude leads to a win / lose mindset: if you win, I lose, and I can't let that happen.

Stephen Covey, American business expert

People with an abundant mindset believe that there are many pies and there are no losers: everyone wins and gets their own piece (or even more than one).

1. Think about what you have

Concentrate on this. Material or immaterial things - it doesn't matter. You need to learn to think abundantly and be grateful for what you have.

2. Share

How to think proactively

Reactive thinkers depend on external factors... They do not play an active role in life, but simply go with the flow.

People with proactive thinking do not blame the situation or those around them if something went wrong, but take responsibility for their lives. They know what they can and cannot change, and they focus on the former.

1. Take action

Get behind the wheel from the passenger seat and start managing your life. Instead of saying “The weather is too bad to go jogging,” say “It's raining outside, but dry at home. So I can do others. "

The point is to stop being held hostage to situations and act no matter what happens around you.

2. Get rid of phrases of reactive thinking

Forget about:

  • I can't because ...
  • If I could, I would.
  • I had to…
  • This is how the circumstances developed.

And try:

  • I will find an alternative.
  • I can do it.
  • This is my decision.
  • I want it myself.

3. Take charge of your life

Do not waste your time on trifles and do not get angry when something does not go according to plan. The bus didn't arrive on time? Get out earlier, take it with you so as not to waste time, rent your license and save up for a car, but do not become a victim of circumstances. Let them work for you.

Nobody promised that it would be easy and fast. But who, if not you, will help you become better and succeed? \

The most important function of the psyche is thinking. What a person thinks about himself or those around him, about some things, is thinking. The quality of life depends on him: light, joyful or gloomy. The choice of a partner, job, position held also depends on how we think. If you are thinking about changing your life, you need to start with thinking first.

  • Identify the erroneous patterns by which you live without even noticing it. During emotional experiences, you need to follow the course of your thoughts. And gradually reveal the problem by asking yourself questions. For example, something upset you, ask yourself why, what exactly hurt you? What is hidden under this and so on, delving deeper and deeper into the essence of their thoughts.
  • Now that your erroneous schemes have been identified, they need to be seriously shaken. You have believed in them for so many years, believed that it is simply impossible to live differently, and these thoughts turn out to be erroneous. At this stage, you will understand how your irrational beliefs are preventing you from living peacefully. Finally, you are ready to change.
  • Replacing irrational schemes with effective ones. Every time you habitually have old thought patterns, immediately change them to new ones that are positive and effective.

In order to start enjoying every day, you need to work hard on yourself, because the way of thinking is based on a deep reflex level. It will take one month to form a new way of thinking. By sticking to the following guidelines for a month, you can develop a habit of thinking differently.

  1. Stop watching news broadcasts, most of which are negative.
  2. Choose comedy deliberately, even if you are not a fan of the genre. Laughter will give you a boost of positive energy.
  3. Emotionally detach from strangers... Even with a short glance on the street at the face of a stranger, a person is able to read all the information about his inner experiences at an unconscious level.
  4. Exclude from your vocabulary the words "I can not", "I will not succeed." Replace them with “I accept this,” “I receive this,” “I am worthy,” “I am grateful."
  5. Watch your thoughts and words. Pull yourself back every time you habitually start thinking negatively.
  6. Live easy! Take time to do things that make you happy. Everyone has the right to go his own way, and it is individual for everyone. By doing what gives you pleasure, you will achieve the best results.
  7. Trust your life. Draw with your imagination happy life you dream about. Take time every day to visualize a wonderful life.

Everything that surrounds a person, his social status, financial position are the result of his thinking. It follows that you yourself decide who you are: rich or poor, successful or unsuccessful.

There are two types of thinking: ambivalent and black and white.

People with black and white thinking know exactly what is good and what is bad. They quickly make their choice, tend to make firm decisions that do not rethink. Therefore, black and white thinking makes the world easier.

Ambivalent (gray) thinking is the ability to see a situation from several sides at once. A person who knows how to think ambivalently can take the opponent's position and look at the problem from his point of view. Although ambivalent thinking makes us, it is very useful. After all, only those who learn to move into the "gray zone" will become smarter and wiser.

Gray thinking can be learned. After all, each of us initially possessed the skill of ambivalent thinking when he was small.

Children do it like this

They love to torment their parents with questions. The why chain can be endless.

- Why did the dog stick out its tongue and breathe?

- She's hot.

- Why? I'm hot, but I didn't stick my tongue out.

- Yes, but the dog has hair and does not sweat.

- Why does the dog have wool?

- To keep her warm.

- Then why don't I have wool?

- Well, that's enough!

Parents will probably recognize this dialogue: such conversations with children happen often. For a child, the world is not black and white, and he easily tries on everything for himself. There is still so much unknown. There are no foundations, no unambiguous truths. The worldview has not yet been formed.

How the world turns black and white

As we grow up, our views become harder. A certain framework is imposed on us from the outside. For example, students are asked to take exams that consist of test questions. It forces us to think in black and white. The correct answer is always A, B, C or D, otherwise it cannot be.

The main symptom of this worldview is thinking in certain categories:

  • War is bad. War is good.
  • Capitalism is bad. Capitalism is good.
  • Higher education necessary. Higher education is a waste of time.

As we mature, we think in slogans. They replace our understanding of the problem, the very process of thinking. After all, in order to think, you need to strain. And when it is clear what is black and what is white, there is no need to think.

Is it bad to have strong convictions?

No, not bad. But real world not black and white. It is very difficult to find a question to which you could give the only correct answer. Our life is a gray area.

It is very difficult to accept this: in schools and universities, we are instilled with the confidence that there are right and wrong answers. And only when faced with reality, we begin to suspect that the world is not so simple.

Clear answers, slogans no longer fit. If you know history well, you cannot say unequivocally that war is bad. Most likely, now you will say: "War is bad, but at some stages of the development of the state it was necessary, so it can be considered a complex and ambiguous phenomenon."

From this answer, it becomes clear: you are not inclined to jump to conclusions. Ambivalent thinking is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, you can spend forever choosing between kefir and fermented baked milk. On the other hand, you have the ability to see the world from multiple perspectives and judge more wisely.

How to learn ambivalent thinking

Learning to think ambivalently is difficult, especially if you are prone to radical judgments. But this will help to see the situation from all sides and not jump to conclusions. Therefore, learning gray thinking is still worth it, and here's how it can be done.

1. Stop judging the world harshly

2. Put the event or phenomenon in perspective

View phenomena, events and concepts from the point of view of time. Determine their importance by considering both the good and the bad.

3. Accept that you are not always right.

Accept the opponent's point of view. Try to believe that he knows the truth and you don't.

4. Train yourself that truth is ambiguous.

Look at the problem from every angle. Take a different opinion. Think about how, and try to take at least a step towards ambivalent thinking.

Usually this question is asked by people who, if not very bad, then certainly not very good. I have been observing one guy for 5 years who, year after year, asks the same question: what is the easy and quick way to succeed? Aha, once and from pawn to queens. No, of course there are ways, for example, to marry the daughter of a corrupt official who stole millions - but we will not talk about that.

I must say right away that I do not consider poverty to be a vice and, unlike the variegated “gurus”, I consider it flawed to call poor people “ rogues". But at the same time, I think that the philosophy of life that leads to poverty and the inability to live in principle is deeply flawed and vicious. To get these poor ideas out of your head and to help change your thinking - that is my task. Then it all depends on your own actions and decisions.

Compared to them, you are rich!

Many of those who have achieved success in life started from scratch. From the point of view of the arrogant "gurus", they were the most real " rogues“Because they did not have a normal income and serious money savings. The only thing they had was the desire to do what they liked without looking back and not listening to anyone.

Son of emigrants John Paul De Joria was a poor man. To start his own business, he took out a bank loan. He did not have a place to live and therefore lived in a car. And every day he went and sold his shampoo because he believed in him. Today John Paul Mitchell Systems is a $ 900 million company.

He just allowed himself to do what he likes.

Samuel Morse despite being born in rich family, in his ordinary life eked out a beggarly existence, who almost died of malnutrition (a certain Strofer, who took painting lessons from him, literally saved his life by feeding him dinner and giving him 10 dollars). However, he did not give up and by creating an electromagnetic writing telegraph ("Morse apparatus") received as a result 400,000 francs from ten European countries. Bought a ranch and started philanthropy.

Just because he allowed himself to do what he really wanted

Joanne Rowling, A 31-year-old single mother living in social benefit, which was barely enough for cheap food and housing. She was depressed and had suicidal thoughts from time to time. Her novel about Harry Potter, printed on an antediluvian typewriter, was rejected by publishers one after another, I mockingly advise you to find “ normal work". But she did not give up and continued to fight to get her book published. Today Joan is the world's first female writer to make $ 1 billion from her writing.

Simply because she did what she loved and believed in, not giving in to difficulties.

Daughter of slaves, ebony Sara Walker, A 20-year-old poor widow with a daughter in her arms, who was paid a maximum of $ 1.50 per day. At the age of 25, she began to go bald, the available funds did not help. But she did not give up and found a way out - with the help of her brothers, she invented her own remedy for baldness. She liked it so much that she began to sell it. But what was it like for a black woman to peddle her product, walking from house to house in a 19th century society steeped in racism and male chauvinism? She not only succeeded - she founded her own company, operating on the principle network marketing, and became the first black female millionaire.

Simply because she allowed herself to be who she is and to do what she wants.

Raymond Albert Kroc was also a "rogue". A trader in paper cups and dairy mixers who have not reached material wealth by the age of 50. At one time he even worked for food and a roof over his head worked in one of the restaurants. But chance or providence pushed him against the McDonald brothers and their restaurant. Ray liked the idea of ​​fast food so much that he bought from the brothers the right to open similar restaurants throughout the United States (now called a franchisee). This ultimately led to the creation of the McDonald’s corporation. At the time of Raymond Kroc's death in 1984, his fortune was over $ 500 million.

Simply because he was doing something that he liked and enjoyed.

Walt Disney was born in a large family carpenter. The family was so poor that they could not buy him a pencil and paper, although Disney really wanted to draw. Nevertheless, at the age of 7 he began selling his first comics, and at 22 he founded The Walt Disney Company with his brother. Even the meanness of business partner Margaret Winkler, who deceived the copyright for all the cartoon characters created at that time, did not stop Disney and now his company is a world-famous multimedia empire.

Just because he did what really pleased him.

Generally, it's not how much money you have now... It is more important - what is your dream, goal, how ambitious it is, perspective and useful. It is important - do you have a business to which you are ready to devote yourself without reserve, or do you dream of becoming an "owner" and ordering the stove to fulfill your desires. This is the kind of thinking that helps you become successful.

Slave attitudes in the head

But some mental attitudes received from parents, communication with those who got a "normal job" and reading stupid books, prevent you from starting to think that way. Let's fix it.

Stop thinking that someone owes you something. You think that from the fact that you will sit and monotonously annoy "The rich should help the poor, the government is obliged to make our life better, God should help the unfortunate", etc. something will change ?! Do you want to live on handouts ?! Or do you want to get something that you really deserve? Then stop whining and complaining.

Stop saving on yourself. Unemployed bum Edison Miranda gave his last pesos to a boxing trainer to learn techniques and techniques. He could buy new clothes, a beautiful mobile phone or a tasty meal, but he invested in himself. Into yourself, not into clothes or food. Your problem is that you value yourself less than the things you buy. This unconscious position is very clearly manifested throughout your life.

Stop chasing quick money. Every day, dozens of letters get into my spam, something like "loot button", " automatic program earnings "," excellent earnings on the Internet "and other garbage. Who are they meant for? For those who are not ready to stubbornly and industriously engage in the business that really enjoys him, but wants to quickly "cut the dough" in order to pay for the fake "pleasures of life." You can succeed in this business .. if you lie a lot and blatantly, but in such people both the brain and the body are destroyed rather quickly due to the proliferation of neurotic zones (the famous liar and manipulator Dale Carnegie died of Hodgkin's disease).

It is always easy and pleasant to communicate with people filled with love of life. And their life is going well: good job, pleasant environment, peace in the family. It would seem that these individuals have a special gift. Of course, luck should be present, but in fact, a person himself forms his own happiness. The main thing is the right attitude in life and positive thinking. Optimists are always positive and don't complain about life, they just improve it every day, and everyone can do that.

Thinking introverts and extroverts

Before you figure out how to change your way of thinking to a positive one, you need to understand your mental makeup:

An introvert is a person whose solution to a problem is aimed at inner world... A person tries to figure out what is required of him in this moment... He works with information without trying to resist circumstances or people who are uncomfortable. Energy flow at the same time, it does not go out in the form of insults, but remains inside.

Extroverts recognize that all challenges are surmountable and required for personal excellence. A change in some character traits or an increase will help to cope with them. professional knowledge... This approach is comparable to finding a person in the school of life, where he can move to a new level.

Thus, we can say that positive and negative thinking characterize a person as an extrovert or introvert.

Features of negative thinking

Modern psychology conventionally divides the thought process into negative and positive and considers it an instrument of the individual. His life depends on how well a person owns it.

Negative thinking - low level abilities of the human brain, based on the past experience of the individual and those around. These are usually mistakes and frustrations made. As a result, the more mature a person becomes, the more negative emotions accumulate in it, while new problems are added, and thinking becomes even more negative. The view in question is typical for introverts.

The negative type of thinking is based on the denial of those facts that are unpleasant for the person. Thinking about them, a person tries to avoid a repeated situation. The peculiarity lies in the fact that in this case he sees even more what is unpleasant for him, and does not notice the positive aspects. In the end, a person begins to see his life in gray colors, and it is very difficult to prove that it is full of wonderful events. People with negative thinking will always find many facts to refute such an opinion. According to their worldview, they will be right.

Characteristics of a negative thinker

By focusing on the negative, the individual is constantly looking for the guilty and trying to find the reason why everything is so bad. At the same time, he rejects new opportunities for improvement, finding in them a lot of shortcomings. Because of this, a good chance is often missed, which is not visible due to past problems.

The main characteristics of people with a negative mindset include the following:
- the desire to live the usual way of life;
-search for negative sides in everything new;
- lack of desire to receive new information;
-the craving for nostalgia;
- waiting for a more difficult time and preparing for it;
-revealing the dirty tricks in their own and others' successes;
- I want to get everything at once, while doing nothing;
-negative attitude towards people around and unwillingness to cooperate; - lack of real life positive sides;
- the presence of valid explanations of why it is impossible to improve life; - stinginess in the material and emotional terms.

Man with negative attitude to everything he never knows exactly what he wants. His desire is to make his life, which he has at the moment, easier.

Optimistic attitude - success in life

Positive thinking- a higher level of development of the thought process, which is based on the extraction of benefits in everything that surrounds a person. The optimist's motto is: "every failure is a step towards victory." In cases where people with negative thinking give up, optimists put in twice the effort to achieve the desired result.

Positive thinking gives a person a chance to experiment, receive new information and accept additional opportunities in the world around him. A person is constantly evolving, and no fears hold him back. Since there is a focus on the positive, even in failures, a person finds benefits for himself and calculates what he has learned through failure. This type of thinking usually characterizes extroverts.

Features of a person with a positive type of thinking

A person who sees only positive in everything around him can be characterized as follows:
-search for advantages in everything;
- great interest in obtaining new information, since these are additional opportunities;
- an irrepressible desire to improve your life;
-creation of ideas, planning;
- the desire to work hard to achieve the set goals;
-neutral and positive attitude to the people around;
-monitoring successful people, thanks to which their experience and knowledge is taken into account;
-search for answers to the question of why the planned is necessarily implemented;
-a calm attitude to their achievements;
- generosity in emotional and material terms (with a sense of proportion).

Based on the foregoing, we can safely conclude that the discoveries and achievements made by a person are the result of the painstaking work of people who have a positive way of thinking.

How to create an optimistic attitude?

For the development of thinking, thanks to which something useful can be extracted from each situation, a person must set himself up positively. How to do it? It is necessary to repeat positive statements more often and communicate with optimistic people, to learn their worldview.

For modern citizens, this approach to life is completely unaccustomed, since they are brought up differently. There are various prejudices and negative attitudes received from childhood. Now you need to change your habits and more often tell your children so that they are not afraid of anything and believe in themselves, strive to become successful. This is optimistic upbringing, thanks to which the formation of positive thinking takes place.

The power of thought is the basis of the mood

The modern generation is very educated, and many people know that thought is material: everything that a person thinks about is higher power they give him over time. It doesn't matter if he wants to, what matters is that he sends out certain thoughts. If they are repeated many times, they will definitely come true.

If you want to understand how to change your thinking to positive, then you must follow the recommendations of the adherents of Feng Shui.
First, you should always think about the positive.
Secondly, in your speech and thoughts, exclude the use of negative particles and increase the number of affirmative words (I get, I win, I have).
It is necessary to be firmly convinced that everything will definitely work out, and then the positive attitude will be realized.

Do you want to be an optimist? Don't be afraid of change!

Everyone gets used to Everyday life and many are very much afraid of change. It can even develop into a phobia, on which you should never concentrate. Pay attention to positive traits that the person will acquire, rather than focusing on negative beliefs. They just need to be chased away.

For example, it becomes possible to move to another job. The pessimist is greatly alarmed by this, and such thoughts appear: “nothing will work out in the new place”, “I will not be able to cope,” etc.
A person who has a positive mindset thinks like this: “ new job will bring more pleasure "," I will learn something new "," I will do another important step to success". - It is with this attitude that they conquer new heights in life!

What will be the result of changes in fate depends on the personality itself. The main thing is to start a new day with positive thinking, enjoy life, smile! Gradually, the world around will become brighter, and a person will definitely become successful!

The Tibetan Art of Positive Thinking: The Power of Thought

Christopher Hansard has written a unique book about the thought process in question. It says that correct thinking can change the life of not only the person himself, but also his environment... The personality is completely unaware of what tremendous opportunities are inherent in it. The future is shaped by random emotions and thoughts. The ancient Tibetans strove to develop the power of thought, combining it with spiritual knowledge.

The art of positive thinking is still practiced today and is just as effective as it was many years ago. Some inappropriate thoughts attract others. If a person wants to change his life, he must start with himself!

11 benefits of positive thinking

Many today talk about the need to think positively, believe in the best and never give up. This is really correct and useful. But why exactly is positive thinking capable of transforming our lives? Let's take a look at 11 benefits of being able to think positively:

1. Positive-minded people easily overcome obstacles that appear on their way. When there is faith in the best, a person automatically looks for ways to solve problems. A person with positive thinking cannot be stopped or slowed down by unfavorable circumstances, because he is focused on success.

2. A positive attitude makes a person strong and persistent. He does not back down, because he is sure that he will get what he wants. Difficulties harden him even more and make him more effective. Perseverance through optimism takes root and becomes a habit.

3. Another good news is that positive thinking has a beneficial effect on our physical health... Our thoughts and health are closely related. When a person sees himself as weak, sick, or presents gloomy prospects, most of the important processes in the body are disrupted. When a person is focused on the positive, he is more likely to experience joyful emotions, and is less likely to get sick.

4. Through the ability to think positively, you can achieve great goals. Many pessimists remain in what they are not satisfied with just because they do not believe in positive change. Optimists believe, act, and set bold goals.

5. Positive thinking is the best prophylactic agent from blues, depression, melancholy and despondency. This approach to life does not allow difficult experiences to nest in the soul of a person.

6. Belief in the best radically changes a person's approach to all everyday tasks. An optimist is much more willing to take on things that need to be done, because he is confident and filled with energy.

7. Thanks to the ability to think positively, people can more easily build relationships with others. These people feel better in society, make friends more easily, and develop healthy long-term relationships. Positive thinking makes it easier to find a common language with people, overcome possible conflicts and put up with the imperfections of others.

8. The ability to concentrate on the "bright" side of events allows you to see more opportunities in life. Where pessimists see only problems and difficulties, optimists see opportunities and rush to use them for their own good.

9. Optimism bestows calmness and confidence. People who know how to concentrate their minds on positive things practically do not suffer from phobias, do not experience many fears and easily overcome anxiety and anxiety. Optimism allows you to live a free life, free from fears and painful experiences.

10. A mind that is focused on the positive works many times more efficiently. The fact is that by seeing only negative prospects, we ourselves block the production of energy in our body. Plus, negative thinking prevents our brains from generating the ideas needed to improve our quality of life.

11. Optimists attract all the best into their lives. They are not afraid to dream, to act and they are lucky in everything. They are aimed at receiving good, and act in this direction. Pessimists are negative, they see only the dark sides in everything, and as a result, they get what they are focused on.

You can always change your thinking, if you only want to. Of course, a habit cannot be developed in 1 day, but step by step, you can change your attitude to the world, and therefore your life!