Mind and intelligence are one and the same, what do you think? But according to the Vedas - this difference exists, and it lurks in the sphere of control. Let's figure it out, as I think this post might get you thinking and rethinking a lot.

Physical body

If you take a person and "put him on the shelves," then the coarsest component of it is the material part, namely the physical body.

The senses

Above the body (higher in level) is already a more "advanced part" of a person - these are feelings (sight, hearing, touch ... - do not confuse with emotions), which controls the body. The senses, depending on the situation, force the body to produce certain hormones, accelerate the heart rate, increase the "combat readiness" of the body, etc. Feelings are directly related to emotions.

Mind

The senses are controlled by the mind, which directs the senses to various objects and events. The mind is a feature not only of humans, but also of animals. In addition to controlling the senses, the mind has an inherent activity of acceptance or rejection, which it constantly does. By the way, the mind itself is not so “smart”, because regardless of the consequences, it only does what it seeks for comfort and pleasure, and by all means tries to avoid pain and unpleasantness.

Conclusion - the mind through the senses seeks only pleasure, not thinking about the consequences.

Intelligence

If the mind was for modern man"Higher authority", then all our activities would be reduced only to the fact to eat deliciously, have sex and sleep well, but fortunately for us, there is a "smarter boss" above our mind - this is the mind.

The mind controls the mind, and therefore controls the entire body, with only one caveat - if the mind is really developed and strong.

The work of the mind is very similar to the work of the mind - to accept or reject, but the difference is that, unlike the mind, the mind tends to analyze and evaluate something like this: “Yes, it may be pleasant, but it is not the best solution, since the consequences of this action can be dire. I'd rather be patient now, but I will protect myself from harm later. "

As you can see, the mind is much more far-sighted than the mind, it does not follow the lead of the senses, it is a more reasonable boss.

Reason is what distinguishes us from animals.

Soul

And a few words about the most subtle substance of our body - about the soul. The soul stands above the mind, in fact, this is the true you.

Living with your soul means completely relying on the "Mind (WILL) of God", always loving everyone (not as an emotion), having a connection with God ...

Enlightened, holy people live in souls, small children live in souls. Selfishness, anger and others are not peculiar to the soul negative emotions, the soul knows almost everything and looks at the world "without glasses and fog in the head."

Living with your soul is the best way life, but unfortunately for us so far it is very difficult, since for this it is necessary to cleanse ourselves of all the negativity and abandon much "earthly".

As you can see, we are all quite complicated (in fact, much more complicated) and we have everything in us to live correctly and happily. But why then do we all live differently?

And the thing is that each of us lives according to the script of the one who is in this moment"King in the head."

The presence of the mind is not a guarantee that it is stronger than the mind. If the mind is highly developed, then yes, but if not, then the person becomes a "slave to passions."

Let's consider some scenarios for the development of life, depending on who is in power.

The mind is in power

If the mind is stronger than the mind, then one cannot escape from sin. Such a person lives with emotions and seeks such pleasures as: tasty food, sex, more money, etc.

The mind lives by the motto: "May it be good for me now, and then whatever happens". This is the path of alcoholism, drug addiction, aids and violence. Fortunately, the total power of the mind is a very rare phenomenon, since the mind, although to varying degrees, still has its own power and intervenes in every situation.

Reason or "the correct king in the head"

As I already wrote above, “living with the soul” is the best of the options for life, but for most of us today, it is still very difficult, and the closest, highest step of spiritual development will be life with the mind.

A strong mind is much better than a strong mind. Thanks to the mind, many mistakes can be avoided, such as they say: "He has a king in his head." If the mind is developed, a person does not go on about feelings, does not allow the mind to follow the destructive path of seeking pleasure, but takes all this under control, trying to make the right decision.

Living with your soul is living with God

Mind is cool, but without a soul, it's just a computer for making logical decisions. And although most of us are still far from enlightenment, this does not mean that the soul does not interfere in the choice of every action. No matter how developed a person is, the voice of conscience (soul) is characteristic of every person, albeit to a different degree.

Enlightened people live with their souls, and we must strive for such a life. Living with your soul is living with God, in God, according to His commandments. This is a life without suffering, or to be more precise, I will say this: this is a life where physical suffering means practically nothing, because in this state you feel like an imperishable part of the World Ocean of Life.

You lost in thoughts?

After reading my small, simplified excursion about the hierarchy of mind, mind, feelings and soul, you probably already thought about such simple, but very important questions for each of us: “So who are the kings in your head now? Which of them have real power in your life today? " ...

And here is the answer to the question: "What to do in order to jump higher one step, for example, from the power of the mind to the power of reason?" - then, this is already the topic of the next posts.

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For a modern person, mind is, first of all, important. It is on him that we focus when making important decisions. But what about feelings? After all, they also play a certain role in our life. Should reasonable person live with feelings?

At one of the stages of evolution, people separated from the animal world. This happened, no doubt, thanks to reason. Years, centuries, millennia passed. Epochs followed each other. Civilization did not stand still. Discoveries were made in science, technical innovations appeared, new lands were mastered - reason moved humanity forward.

However, our existence would hardly be full if we did not from time to time surrender to the power of various feelings: love and hate, friendship and hostility, joy and grief, pride and disappointment.

We have a different temperament different tempers, dissimilar destinies. And therefore our life values ​​are different. Some people live exclusively by reason, always making conscious, well-considered decisions. Others are accustomed to listening only to the voice of the heart and intuition.

We find many examples of unequal and sometimes directly opposite attitudes towards life in the literature.

Natasha Rostova, the heroine of Leo Tolstoy's epic novel, lives with feelings, thinking little about the causes and consequences of her actions. She rejoices and falls in love, sad and yearning, makes mistakes and experiences remorse. All this outwardly looks unusually natural and cute. It is no coincidence that Natasha is adored by the household; men cannot resist such childish spontaneity and sincerity of feelings. Denisov falls in love with the girl, she wins the hearts of Pierre Bezukhov and Andrei Bolkonsky, Boris Drubetskoy and Anatol Kuragin are fond of her. This example shows what an attractive force sincere feelings have for a person.

The hero of the same work, Andrei Bolkonsky, until a certain time follows reason, and feelings in his fate do not play any prominent role... However, a lot changes when Bolkonsky fell in love with Natasha. Love illuminates Andrey's life, filling it with new meaning, making it bright and rich. The prince had a chance to experience a whole range of feelings: joy from reciprocity, bitterness from loss, jealousy, hatred.

At the same time, Andrei does not lose the rational principle - on the contrary, love enriches the life of the mind with new shades, facets. On the eve of the battle at Borodino, like ordinary soldiers, Bolkonsky feels "the warmth of patriotism." But love for the Fatherland, as they say, is highest manifestation mind. At the end of his life, Andrei comprehends the main wisdom - love for God. It turns out that the secret of human happiness lies in the harmonious combination of reason and feeling. Isn't that what the life of Tolstoy's hero proves?

So, despite the decisive role of reason, feelings have for each of us great value... They brighten up our existence, adding new meaning to it. To live only with feelings, of course, is not worth it. But they cannot be ignored either.

Reason or senses? This question interests many people at different periods of their lives. Perhaps among your friends there are clear supporters of one side or the other. And what does it mean to live by reason or feeling? After all, we all, to one degree or another, think and feel and try to somehow "balance" these mystical components of life. But often people have to regret this or that choice. "It would be better if I thought carefully then and acted according to the situation", "I never felt happy in these moments, I can not enjoy life ... I do not feel anything." Each of us grew up in a family where, to one degree or another, the cult of reason or feelings prevails. This, of course, leaves typos on our further actions. But what is best for our life is up to us to decide. The experience of each of us has already pushed us towards a certain decision. Did we make the right choice? What will be better for the way we live? How to reconcile mind and feelings and learn to live?

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The senses

Here we have a girl who constantly steps on the same rake, makes the same mistakes, but is content with every happy minute and enjoys life. It seems to you that she seems to “live and breathe with her full chest”, rejoices at every beautiful minute and that she does everything right, that this is how she should act. We see her happy with her new chosen one, how she shines from the inside. Romance at every step, ecstasy and dreams. But when her heart is broken again, you think: how stupid it all looks from the outside. Why is she suffering so much? Why can't he pull himself together, after all, everyone does this, it seems, it’s not so hard. Emotions on her face change one after another, she then suffers, then again pulls herself together. And when the next chance comes, he catches it with a strong grip.

Have you ever acted against the expectations of others? Didn't listen to your parents, who constantly convinced you of a certain point of view, but you did it all the same in your own way? Or when you went against your superiors, general rules, or even just your requirements and plans? Because they wanted to? In each of these cases, you probably acted in obedience to your feelings. And perhaps even in half of these cases they regretted what they had done.

And although feelings often fail us, we still return to them again and again, making an impulse, a leap, abandoning plans for our desires. We take risks, we fall, we rise and live again. This is human nature - to feel. And even if you choose to trust only your mind, it will be self-deception, because a person cannot live without feelings. No matter how reliable we are, no matter how we describe our plans and thoughts, each of us has his own weaknesses and "impulses". Everyone needs to make mistakes sometimes, to do crazy things in order to feel alive.

Feelings can be the choice of both a very weak and a very strong person. When feelings are a choice a weak person- this is what torments us for many years. These are weaknesses, attachments that prevent us from living. This is a wife who cannot leave her alcoholic husband because of attachment and confusion. There are many cases when feelings interfere with making a very important choice, torment us, complicate life. Feelings and emotions should not bring grief and suffering. If we choose feelings and suffer from this choice, then something is wrong.

At the same time, feelings can be the choice of a very strong person. Because when we trust our instincts, we trust ourselves. This is the choice of a self-confident person who lives in harmony with his inner world. Reason is often not our choice, but the choice of the environment, society, a choice that other people have made before us and impose this opinion on us. Reason is often stereotypes that destroy feelings. A person who trusts his emotions is not mistaken in them. After all, the whole essence of this choice is to then not regret it and be completely confident in the correctness of the deed. Feelings are chosen by individualists and strong personalities because they know how to express themselves and what to tell the world. Indeed, in the end, it is the feelings of ethics that make us human and fill our life with meaning.

Intelligence

Man has his own "sins", mistakes and doubts. At some point in life, the intellect throws a "life buoy" for each of us, relieves tragedies, helps to comprehend the situation and even improve it. There are people who consider the mind to be the main assistant in all life conflicts. After all, feelings often clouder decisions, push us to selfishness and the inherent disadvantages of our nature. Feelings are the little selfish child in us who demands to fulfill his whims. The mind is an adult who has to pacify the child inside from time to time. Moreover, planning and informed decisions help us avoid many mistakes.

But if you plan ahead, sooner or later you can get burned. People who give decisions to the mind are more anxious, afraid to do something wrong, to lose, to make mistakes. Trusting your “I” is often useful, as well as listening to inner whims. Another approach leads to stress, frustration and conflicts with oneself. When choosing a mind, sooner or later you realize that a certain side of sensitivity and emotionality leaves you and you are no longer capable of experiencing and bright emotions... Now, in beautiful and pleasant situations, reason and analysis come to the rescue. And so he tells us: “Everything is good, everything is wonderful. But why do I feel so little? "

Harmony within us

Of course, no one can choose only one method - living with the mind or senses. We understand that in different situations it is worth listening to each of these parties. And perhaps they are not even as militant as they seem? When to choose the mind, and when the feeling? In fact, these are not such warring parties. With experience comes harmony, and with harmony and correct decisions that will help combine the answers of each of these parties, weigh your impulses and desires, but also analyze situations and give due to the situation. Intuition tells us when to listen to which side. And even if we make mistakes, others will criticize us, the main thing is a personal choice. You should not be afraid of new methods and solutions, you need to be confident in your choice, not to conflict with yourself and trust your heart or mind. It is better to learn from your mistakes than to listen to the advice of others.

Now let's pay attention to the question of what exactly this state gives us, and why.

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What gives us the state "Here and now"

At first

Being "here and now" you will receive the effectiveness of reactions and actions. We have already said that it is 100% impossible to predict everything. How then do you react to what was not part of the plan, what did not go as you expected? If you are still in your own mind, ideas, fantasies, any deviation from the plan will plunge you into a stupor and generally inhibit any action.

“I get lost when something goes“ wrong ”, I lose the gift of speech, I don’t know what to do, and often I stand in silence, trying to collect my thoughts, and realizing that I look more stupid every second…. "

If you are in Here and now, you easily feel what you want at the moment. And you can easily express your feelings about what is happening, act in accordance with your natural reactions. And, accordingly, if you are in contact with yourself, there will be no stupor and clouding of the mind.

Many are afraid that their response will be “inadequate” or “wrong”. In sessions, hearing this, I always ask - is it wrong for what?

What are these standards of correct behavior that you follow? Are you sure these benchmarks are appropriate for this particular case? Why do you put standards above your feelings and your goals? Who and when told you that live with feelings- inadequate?

Naturally, we are forced to adhere to the social framework, but they are quite simple in general.

Read the code administrative offenses- it doesn’t have many limitations. Everything else is your own speculation about whether this particular group of people will consider you "normal".

The most important thing here is that if in any society you are constantly thinking hard about how to respond "correctly", then you will only increase your chances of a negative assessment. Because with a tight, tense, dejected and frightened person, it's hard in any society.

Even if you try to hide your tension, all the same, no one has deprived others of the original ability to feel. And therefore, albeit unconsciously, any person next to you is able to grasp your true mood here and now.

Consider the egg cracking example. This applies to whatever you do - work, sports, sex, household chores, creative expression, communication. If one part of you is here, the other part is thinking about who will think what and how this or that might turn out, and the third part is generally thinking about tomorrow's meeting at work, hardly any of these actions will be effective enough.

Moreover, what was done in the "autopilot" mode is poorly remembered. Even if this action does not require attention and special skill, then you will hardly be able to remember in detail what exactly you did and where, for example, you put this or that thing. Sometimes this kind of everyday absent-mindedness becomes an endless source of irritation and loss of time.

Secondly

Being "Here and Now" you will reduce the likelihood that it will be the same. When you are in your assumptions, your consciousness filters new possibilities, that is, “does not notice” them. Look again at the diagram of the reproduction of the old experience.

If you do not expect anything specific, but actively notice everything that is happening in Here and now, you start to see new opportunities and live with new feelings. And react in a new way. And accordingly, you get a new experience. Which is often much better than the old one.

Most people try to do a lot "ahead of the curve", while proceeding from old experience, other people's experience, negative expectations and other "suddenly". I will give an example, as they say, from real life.

The girl is trying to "just in case" (because she already had such a negative experience) to provide for all variants of the situation "my partner can change me."

To do this, the following actions are taken: purposeful survival of friends of the opposite sex from the partner's environment is performed, his mail is checked, social networks, telephone (whichever is more available).

Restless and unnecessary body movements occur, for example, calling for no reason (because this is the fifth time in a day, and it is difficult to think of a reason), attempts to constantly “be around”, dictated by the fear of leaving him alone, inventing some, in the girl’s opinion, “ incendiary "situations (for example, provocations on jealousy on her part, which most often degenerates into a banal hassle), etc.

All this is intended to help avoid betrayal.

But in practice it is achieved reverse result- the partner feels limited to the extreme, gets tired of the constant control and presence of another person, cannot relax, be alone with himself or communicate with friends the way he wants, is constantly forced to delve into provocations and spend his emotions on various "checks". The result is that he leaves.

And now a simple question - where, in what reality did that girl live? Anything other than today.

Partly in the past, where she had a negative experience. Partly - in the future, regarding which she was visited only by fears and dark fantasies.

All this had nothing to do with reality, with being "here and now". And it didn't work out to live with real feelings for a partner. And sometimes you have to assume that they did not exist. After all, what kind of love can you talk about if one does not feel any trust in the other?

If we talk about how to draw conclusions from the past, then first of all, find out why there was treason in the relationship and how the responsibility of each of the participants was realized in that situation.

Only by realizing the extent of your responsibility (and not just the “guilt” of your partner), you can really draw conclusions. And the most reliable guarantee that the likelihood of betrayal, at least, will decrease, can only be an understanding of what actions in a couple led to this. The actions of both, I emphasize.

But in reality that girl could rely on the facts of today. And if there were no obvious signs of ambiguity, then there was no reason to suspect treason in these specific relationships. And perhaps the relationship would have developed in a different way.

Thirdly

Being "here and now" you will be able to fully contact reality and learn a lot about it. For example, you can think for weeks, "what did he mean when he looked at me like this."

If you, catching a glance, immediately went into fantasies and assumptions - you flew into the same abstract plane, where a billion assumptions, theories, "on the one hand" and "on the other hand", but not an ounce of truth about this reality.

If you continue to stay in Here and now you can hear your own feelings. And they will deepen and develop in contact with the reality of this view.

Perhaps you will immediately feel what is behind it. Perhaps here and now you will feel a growing bewilderment, but it is this that will allow you to ask right away about what is behind the look. This will help the other person know that you are feeling them. And your contact at this level will continue to deepen - this is the skill live with feelings.

And if you go into the plane of abstractions, you will not be able to understand your feelings and will not have time to react. And you will be left day after day to chew on the assumptions about what it could be, not one iota approaching reality.

Living with feelings: are they telling the truth?

I propose to conduct a simple experiment here and now. First, at the level of sensations.

Run your hand over a surface and tell me, what is it? For example, soft, warm, fleecy. Do you have any doubts that this is really the case? Unlikely. Your fingers transmit a very specific signal to your consciousness.

If someone comes and tells you that your warm and soft surface is actually cold, slippery and smooth - will you believe him? If, again, do not go into any abstractions - no. Perhaps you allow a person to have distortions of perception or a different perception - say, he has hot fingers and therefore the surface temperature really seems to him cooler than you.

But neither in your relationship, nor in your life, is there any general and "objective" truth. Objective truth, if you can call it that, is only at the level of the basic laws of nature and objects of the material world.

And sensations are the primary way through which we can learn something about the world. But for each person, they differ to one degree or another. And there is no single standard of sensations for all. And, accordingly, the conclusions and inferences made on their basis will be even more different for each person than the sensations themselves.

You have your "like" or "dislike", and what you feel is your reality to rely on. Here and now she is. Even if you decide that it is better not to express feelings in this situation, this is your right. But you can notice them. And draw the appropriate conclusions within yourself. Which will be your today's truth about your condition and the state of affairs around.

To begin with, in any situation, try to pay attention specifically to bodily sensations. Are you comfortable? Do you feel any tension? What do you feel is its source? Where exactly is this sensation in your body? What do you want to do with him?

This practice of listening to yourself can seem cumbersome at first. But over time, you will become much faster to determine what is happening to you at the moment. And this knowledge about yourself will eventually become so obvious that there will be no question for you - is it possible to consider what I feel to be true and is it possible to live with feelings?

Moreover, your feelings will become more vivid. Remember all the most powerful moments in your life. What are they connected with? With feelings. Even if the event was associated with the receipt of important information, it aroused feelings.

And "thinking" and fantasies in the same circle cause only regret about the wasted time and that fantasies have not yet been given to become reality. But how can something become reality if you do not try to do it in reality, but only scroll in your head?

Living with feelings - living in reality

I often hear this statement: “What difference does it make if the brain receives stimulation - from fantasy or from reality? After all, the sensations can be the same! "

Imagine, for example, waving your arms here and now. Imagine this for 2-3 minutes. You're tired? Do you feel a pleasant stretch of your muscles? Have your heartbeat increased? Is the tension gone?

Now try to wave your hands in reality for the same 2-3 minutes. Even if in the first case you had a certain increase in heart rate, a certain semblance of tension and relaxation, then the contrast with reality will still be striking.

Yes, we can evoke emotions through fantasies and representations. And by itself, this mechanism helps a person, for example, to "catch fire" with a certain idea, and then begin to implement it. But for some reason, the majority of life exclusively in fantasy does not give pleasure.

And here everything is simple - while we live in our body, we somehow make up a common whole with it. Mind, feelings and body are all our reality, and the separation of one from the other and the third is fraught with at least a loss of acuity of sensations and general dissatisfaction.

In the here and now, we are usually collected. At least to a greater extent than usual. We feel our body, we are aware of our feelings, which are directly related to our sensations, and the mind is ready for analytical work if necessary.

It is unlikely that you want to experience love without physical contact, a trip to the sea - only on TV, communication with friends only through text on the Internet, and sports - from photographs. Can you live in books all the time? And will such a life suit you?

The majority say “no” with all certainty.

But when it comes to saying goodbye to their beliefs and judgments about the world, albeit based on experience, but hindering further progress, and admitting that the present may be different from the past - the majority, nevertheless, choose to continue to exist “in the head ”, Missing over and over again new opportunities to live with feelings in reality.

And he waves his arms exclusively in imagination, hoping that such an action will help strengthen the muscles of the arms.

Statistics - new religion

Separately, this phenomenon "helps" a person never to come to their senses. The statistics were intended, in fact, to investigate trends in order to change something or draw conclusions. However, the majority for some reason perceive it as a new form of doctrine.

The Internet is full of jokes about British scientists, however, joking about the notorious figure of speech, many continue to sincerely believe that they are determined by statistics.

Here's a paradox - statistics has always been a study of the existing state of affairs. As in the economy, demand first gave birth to supply. And then it happened that supply began to shape demand. And statistics began to dictate to many how to behave and what will happen to them.

Only I do not hear any statements based on this new form religions:

- I will not be able to get married, because according to statistics there are fewer men than women, by a certain percentage, and according to the same statistics, at the age of 30 most of them are married ....

- I will not find a good job for myself, because according to statistics, specialists of my profile are in demand only in such and such a segment, and it makes up only a certain percentage of the total number of places, and in another, according to market research, somewhat different qualities of applicants are needed, which I do not possess….

- I will not be able to improve my health, because for the majority, according to statistics and the opinion of doctors, this disease is incurable….

What does all this have to do with you? Why did you rank yourself among some faceless group of people? Who collected these statistics? Does it accurately reflect the real state of affairs? And even if it reflects - after all, it was there and then, and here and now you yourself can create new trends in statistics.

The statistics do not say anything. She doesn't predict. She only explores the existing trends. And she cannot predict for you personally, in your particular life, whether you will get married, whether you will improve your health and whether you will find a job.

Interestingly, according to the same statistics, per capita alcohol consumption in Russia is growing catastrophically, while alcoholism is getting younger, and the death rate from it is increasing.

But for some reason, crowds of those who believe in statistics refuse alcohol, and every Friday, or even more often, they go to “drink the norm”. But for some reason this part of the statistics is ignored. Apparently, I don’t want to believe in it. But then why believe in other gloomy predictions?

The point, of course, is that belief in statistics is sometimes a poorly understood resistance. A person may have his own set of fears (to be engaged in health, to get married or to look for a job), but he does not have enough knowledge or determination to isolate these fears and start working with them.

And then, unconsciously, such an "excuse" is chosen - "there are statistics!", Which, in fact, only justifies the lack of action to improve the situation.

But the simplest action that could be taken right here and now is to refuse to measure yourself by someone else's standards. Yes, something happened to someone somewhere. And to be completely blind to what is happening around is unwise.

But what will you lose if you start looking for a husband, regardless of the statistics? What if you start trying the wellness systems available to you, despite what “most people think”? What if you go to interviews, trying to find what you like, despite the fact that the "British scientists" ...?

And if you are afraid of wasting time and acting without guarantees, then what are you spending your time on now, today? Perhaps if you start living with your feelings, they will tell you how unsatisfactory your reality is for you. But perhaps this feeling will be the impetus for you to start doing something?

Psychologists say that a person who lives by feelings opens the door to his main enemy - pride.

The main rule

Of course, without feelings and emotions, the world and its perception by a person would be boring and monotonous. People would turn into insensitive creatures: no one would be able to either sympathize with another, or be happy for him. Interest in life would fade away at lightning speed, and people would approach each other only from a rational point of view. Therefore, to live fully, you need to have feelings and be able to manage them. The most important thing is to learn how to properly manage feelings that would be in balance with reason. But! Life shows something else: there is no balance between logic and emotion.

Feelings rule life

Failure to comply with the basic rule leads to the fact that feelings begin not only to prevail, but to rule life. People who live with feelings and do not include reason, fall into constant conflicts with outside world and with ourselves. Moreover, people living with feelings do not think that at least periodically it is necessary to turn on the mind. A problem arises that requires psychological assistance.

When a person lives by feelings, then he opens the door to his main enemy - pride. In such a state, a person begins to distort the idea of ​​himself, to feel himself as he is not in reality. Pride, in turn, gives rise to self-centeredness and selfishness. A person finds himself in a state that he feels that the whole world revolves around him, and he is not interested in the life of other people. Thus, a person becomes a self-sufficient person.

Advice

To stop your feelings from poisoning your life, you should try to use the following tips:

  1. Turn on the mind. It will be difficult at first, but over time it will get easier and easier. The time will come and this process will return to its usual course. Thus, many similar life situations will gradually be solved by the established templates, that is, automatically. A person begins to live not only with feelings, but also to balance his mind, doing everything as needed.
  2. Learn to think. Turning on the mind does not mean starting to think. According to statistics, the mass personality thinks less than 5% of the time, even when the head is on. When the mind is turned on, people often do not try to think: they are lazy, forget about it, are content with past decisions, stereotyped habitual constructions of the mind, without deliberately thinking about the present situation.
  3. Find harmony of mind and feelings. In any case, it is always recommended to initially turn to the mind: to your own and to the mind of the people around you. If this cannot be done immediately, then resort to the help of the senses. It is important to achieve such harmony: so that feelings can give subtle information about their psychological state and the condition of other people. At the same time, it is very important to keep in mind: feelings should remain only an instrument, and the mind should make the final decisions.
  4. Listen to the words of Saint Theophan: “You cannot live without feelings, but it is illegal to succumb to feelings ... Do this: figure out in advance where any feelings can be excited, and enter into those circumstances, keeping yourself on guard against the excitement of the heart, or holding your heart in strong hands. You have to practice in this, and by exercise you can reach complete power over yourself. "