Experts treat such experiences with understanding. And yet they warn: do not succumb to despondency! Having learned terrible truth and after experiencing the first shock, it is important to be able to choose LIFE.

Our consultant - psychologist Maria Belykh.

Having received a confirmed diagnosis of a serious illness, a person, in one form or another, goes through five stages of accepting the diagnosis. Hundreds of unanswered questions swarm in my head. The future is hanging like a black cloud. After all, the worst thing is the unknown. Psychologists say that this is a completely normal reaction. In such a situation, it is natural and even necessary to go through a certain period of grief, to mourn the changes that have occurred in fate. The main thing is not to get stuck in any of these stages.

Stage one. Shock and / or denial

Having received a confirmed diagnosis of a serious illness, the first hours or even days a person experiences a state of shock. He lives and acts “on the machine” and can look completely calm and healthy.

After the shock comes panic, the person begins to rush in the literal and figurative sense. To defend itself, the psyche develops a "reflex of denial": the patient does not believe in his diagnosis, often tries to lead ordinary life avoiding any reminders of the disease. Such a short-term state of denial is a natural defensive reaction, but if a person remains in this state for too long, then, firstly, he experiences severe stress, and secondly, he puts his life at great risk, since he does not go to the doctor and does not care about your health. At the same time, relatives can be completely ignorant: often they either hide the diagnosis from them, or they do not know the whole truth. Therefore, at this stage, a person can feel very lonely, even isolated from the world, alone with his fear.

How to handle it. Educate yourself by collecting complete information about your illness. From acquaintance with the disease, one should gradually move on to acquaintance with the sick - that is, with people suffering from the same disease. As the observations of doctors at the Moscow Center for Multiple Sclerosis show, even the usual sympathetic communication of patients with each other increases the effectiveness of treatment and the quality of life.

Stage two. Anger

As soon as a person passes the first stage, he begins to face reality and understands: a serious illness is now a part of his life. And he often begins to feel anger - towards God, towards himself that he did something wrong, towards doctors who cannot cure him, towards others - for ignorance and misunderstanding. And for the fact that they are ... so far healthy.

And while anger is a normal reaction of the human psyche to any crisis in life, when it lasts too long, the level of stress rises sharply. And health often deteriorates: after all emotional condition is in direct connection with the physiological. It turns out that by being angry, you are only acting on the hand of the disease. In addition, excessive anger can deprive you of possible allies - people who could provide you with help and support in the future.

How to handle it. You should not "burn out" the priceless energy in vain. You need to be angry at the disease. No wonder the Tibetan lamas said that "you need to really hate your illness in order to defeat it." Look for examples among famous people, who fought with dignity with a similar disease, lived long and efficiently and left their mark on history.

Stage three. Deal

At this stage, a person tries to come to terms with the situation, making a kind of deal with his subconscious on the principle: if I behave well, everything will become as before. Right now, the patient is ready to go to healers, sorcerers, use unproven methods of treatment, invent their own, refusing the course prescribed by official medicine. Many turn to faith, and very quickly can reach unhealthy fanaticism. Others, regardless of the severity of the condition, go on distant pilgrimages. In fact, this is the desire to escape from the disease, but in fact - from oneself.

How to handle it. It is important to understand that a disease is not retaliation or punishment for something, and it will not disappear anywhere, either magically, or miraculously, or in any other way, that your specific disease is just one of dozens of chronic diseases that millions people live with a disease similar to yours all their lives.

At the same time, there is no need to prohibit anything to yourself. I like going to a healer - go, just inform your doctor about it. Visits to temples and shrines also have a beneficial effect on the psyche of patients. It should only be remembered that sick people cannot maintain fasting (none, not just a strict one!) And cannot remain at the service through force, when the knees buckle and it darkens in the eyes.

Better yet, find yourself a BUSINESS in which you can achieve success and recognition that will truly captivate you. Suffice it to recall the experience of Daria Dontsova, who began to write her detective stories in a hospital bed and managed not only to win serious illness but also become famous.

Stage four. Depression

When reality is finally realized, almost all patients experience some degree of depression. There remain huge unresolved questions about plans for the future, about relationships with others, about changing status in the family and at work. Need permanent treatment often radically changes the usual way of life, starting with the daily routine. Many people at this stage just want to crawl under the covers and hide from the whole world.

How to handle it. First of all, you need to understand that this is a temporary period. Feelings of hopelessness and gloomy visions of the future are chimeras that are essentially nothing more than symptoms of depression. After experiencing it, you will see your life in a completely different way. The diagnosis is not a reason to abandon plans and hopes. Moreover, for each serious disease, new methods of treatment are constantly being developed, which help to maintain legal capacity for long time... However, there are diseases that provoke depression at the biochemical level. In this case, you need to seek help from a psychiatrist who will prescribe antidepressant treatment for you.

Stage five. Acceptance and reassessment

Accepting and resigning are not the same thing. Acceptance means that the person has come to understand that he can live with his illness, that the patient has developed clear positive goals and aspirations, the realization of which even illness cannot prevent. At this stage, the time comes to re-evaluate your life, your plans and goals. Often, only after a difficult diagnosis has been made, people understand what is really important and valuable for them, what is worth spending time and energy on, focus on what is most important for themselves and refuse what is unnecessary.

To the attention of relatives and friends

After receiving the news of a serious diagnosis, it is better not to leave a person alone.

Use any thread to bind the patient more tightly to life: try to show him new, interesting things.

If the patient has suicidal thoughts, immediately contact the centers for psychological assistance!

Don't put an adult in the position of a helpless infant. Underlines

Use words and actions to show the patient's strength and confidence in the fight against the disease. Do not allow tearful, pitying intonations in communication with him. Decide on a choice: either you support him and help fight the disease, or step aside.

Personal opinion

Lyudmila Lyadova:

- You should never be discouraged. Those who constantly whine will be constantly ill. A blues is a terrible thing, it must not be allowed under any circumstances, otherwise a man turns into a “bluesy”, and a woman - a “bluesy”. And if a person has been diagnosed with a serious, willpower and majesty are especially important.

Hello dear reader! Serious illness loved one becomes a test not only for himself, but also for his relatives. Life seems to be divided into two parts: before and after. The first one is happy, cloudless, with plans and dreams for a wonderful future. The second is gloomy and gray, with depressing thoughts and endless visits to doctors. When this very "after" comes, it is very important not to break down and hold on to the last. But how to find strength in yourself? How can you be a source of comfort? Do not burn out and reach the end?

Serious diagnosis - awareness and acceptance

Cancer, hepatitis, HIV. It doesn't matter what serious diagnosis the patient has heard. The reaction is always the same - stupor and denial. The person does not want to believe that something terrible has happened to him. Don't be surprised if your relative starts claiming that the doctors were wrong. Or he will refuse treatment, arguing that he is in complete order.

It will also be hard for you when a loved one is sick. But try to be the first to accept the fact that the diagnosis is true. And you have to fight the disease. Do not press on a loved one and give him time to come to terms. Understand that everything is really happening. Just try to gently persuade your husband or parent to undergo additional examinations or a course of treatment prescribed by a doctor. After all, humility sometimes stretches over weeks or even months. And with symptoms of serious illness, you can not hesitate.

Do not be surprised if your cheerful and optimistic father turns into an obedient doll for a while. Will silently walk with you to the offices. Listen to the recommendations of experts with a blind eye. Just try to be there. Do not give ghostly hopes or promise that he will definitely get better. And wait for the person to accept the situation.

Do not be alarmed if a relative constantly insists that he does not have cancer, but the usual vitamin deficiency. Or cry silently for days and refuse food and communication with others. Everyone perceives grief differently. Just don't let your sick father or husband go headlong into own world... And don't pretend that nothing happened.

It's hard and painful. But the disease must be accepted. Polite smiles and small talk about trifles are also useful, but after the relative decides to fight to the last. Or accept the inevitable. Do not support the illusion of a misdiagnosis and a worldwide conspiracy, because until acceptance comes, a person will not be able to move to the second level, which brings him closer to recovery.

Anger and aggression

One day the patient wakes up in the hospital or in his own bed and realizes: "This is my reality." Drops, pills, regular tests, weakness and gloomy silence of doctors. He finally realizes that the disease has indeed captured his body. And then comes the second phase - anger.

A person with a serious diagnosis hates the whole world. Blames everyone around for his troubles. Relatives who made him nervous. A demanding boss, inadequate neighbors, government, doctors and just healthy people who do not need to fight cancer or hepatitis.

At the first stage, the patient is apathetic, because the body is trying to protect itself from severe stress. But gradually the control weakens, and negative emotions go outside. This is normal, because if a person restrains himself, his health only worsens.

The main thing is not to be frightened by unexpected outbursts of rage. And don't take the relative's accusations to heart. When a person realizes that he is seriously ill, and the hope of salvation is minimal, he begins to protest. He thinks, "Why should I go through these trials when other people are enjoying life?"

Show that you understand his emotions. And you recognize the right to be angry. Just try not to show empathy at this stage. It only adds fuel to the fire and intensifies hatred.

Do not try to invent sins for which the Universe or God could punish a relative. Patients with serious diagnoses often ask an invisible interlocutor how they deserve cancer, stroke or HIV. Nothing. Yes, you can remember how your husband injected himself with drugs, using one syringe for three with friends. Or how my father liked to go into binge drinking for 2-3 weeks, which caused cirrhosis of the liver. Revelations alone will not help the patient.

There is no need to talk about misconduct or bad karma. If you want to support a person, then keep quiet. Or say: “Sickness is not given for sins. It's just an accident. You're out of luck. But it’s too early to give up. ”

Good deal

Gradually, aggression decreases and gives way to despair. The future seems hopeless and bleak. There is nothing ahead but suffering and death. To suppress the growing fear, the sick person begins to bargain with fate or heaven. He is trying to make a deal: “I will fulfill certain conditions, and in return I will receive health and long life to a ripe old age. " It is good if your relative at this stage seeks to lead a correct lifestyle. For example, refuses bad habits, eats only useful products and follows all the instructions of the attending physician, without complaining about life.

Some people are so addicted to the magic deal that they refuse to take drugs and stop going for procedures. They are fixated on mystical recovery and firmly believe that everything will happen without traditional medicine. Some patients try to visit as many temples and churches as possible. Kiss the icons, ask the saints for help. Others are addicted to unconventional treatments. Decoctions, infusions and other dubious procedures. And still others fall into the hands of sectarians and pseudo-preachers who promise healing from one touch.

If you understand that your loved one has crossed the border and faith in miraculous healing does not help, but only worsens his condition, try to talk to him. Usually, behind the excessive religiosity and hope for magic, there is a banal fear. Your relative is frightened by his illness and condition.

The patient needs to open his eyes. Show that he is driven by despair and fear of the future. As soon as your loved one understands the true motives of his actions, there will be a chance for him to return to the world of adequate people. You may have to be a little harsh. Patients with enviable stubbornness do not want to give up their own illusions. But you have to break through the defense.

Try to gently convey to the person that prayers are good, but it is better to combine them with drugs and droppers. And the relics of the saints help only those who follow the doctor's recommendations. After all, people in white coats know much more than grandmothers and shamans from some hinterland.

The last stage

The person denies, gets angry, tries to negotiate with higher powers... And when none of the above helps, he gets depressed. This is also a normal reaction to serious illness... The patient finally realizes that life has not changed in better side... And he will have to go through difficulties. It is good if a thin ray of hope shines at the end of the path. But not all diseases end in recovery.

The first thing you should do is give up your compassion and constant groaning. Believe me, your pitying looks and bitter lamentations will only worsen the emotional state of your relative. It is already difficult for him to deal with dark thoughts. There is no need to heat up the atmosphere.

Don't try to hide your despair and your own fear behind a cheerful smile and encouraging phrases. At first, happy people cause irritation and anger in patients. Secondly, in a person with cancer or cirrhosis, only the body suffers. The brain functions normally, and the patient is aware of what is happening to him and how it all ends. Feigned fun only alienates you from your beloved husband, father or mother.

What can you do? Find a good therapist for your relative. Unfortunately, depressive states caused by serious illnesses cannot be eliminated at home. The patient is encouraged to attend individual or group sessions to help him come to terms with the diagnosis.

Learn to talk frankly about the things that concern your loved one. Don't start your greeting with "How are you?" Forget about this phrase. It makes the patient upset and into a stupor. What kind of cases can we talk about if he lies in a hospital bed for days and attends chemotherapy? And so every day. Replace the standard phrase with the phrase: "How are you feeling?" Just be prepared for the fact that a person wants to talk about their experiences, thoughts and fears.

What should you do at this moment? Sit nearby, squeezing your hand, and listen while nodding your head. Let the relative throw out everything that has accumulated inside him. When a person speaks out his fears and problems, they seem to diminish and stop tormenting him at least for a while.

The more you talk about frank and unpleasant topics, the faster the depression recedes. Yes, sometimes you feel uncomfortable or uncomfortable. If the conversation causes you strong negative emotions, try to gently reschedule the conversation for the next time. Or offer to discuss some mundane things. Just warn your loved one that the problem is not in him, but in your suspiciousness and fatigue.

Do not promise a sick person who has the lowest chance of recovery or fatal diagnosis that everything will definitely work out for you. Don't ask to cheer up and look at the situation from a different, more optimistic angle. Such requests only distance you from a relative, because it seems to him that no one is able to understand his feelings and share the grief.

Also, try not to compare the person with friends or your pets, who also had a tumor cut out. All people are different. And at the moment of illness, the sense of individuality is especially acute. It will be unpleasant for your husband or mother if you compare her to your colleague. Especially if a friend could not overcome the problem or remained disabled. Patients with serious diagnoses do not want to think about the bad.

Caring for a sick relative and yourself

Always remember that terrible diagnoses awaken two basic emotions in a person: fear and a desire to survive. It is after the news of an incurable disease that some patients begin to think about the meaning of being. They are looking for information that can comfort them. Many are turning to religion. If your relative starts attending church, reading the Bible, or studying Buddhism, don't make fun of his interests. It doesn't matter if you are an atheist, Christian or Muslim. A sick person has the right to own point vision. If his beliefs do not interfere with the treatment, there is nothing wrong with them. Sometimes it is the deepening into religion that works wonders and helps to get rid of terrible disease... Or at least brings comfort and peace.

Spend a lot of time with a sick person. You don't have to spend days discussing the problem and its symptoms. You can watch TV shows, walk in the park, if the health of a relative allows, knit or embroider. Invite a loved one to learn something new or make an old dream come true. For example, getting a manicure or wearing heels for the first time.

Drawing works well with depressive and suicidal thoughts. Of course, your mom can say that paints and markers are made for children. But suggest at least a try. What if you like it? Bring a sick relative his favorite books and food, gossip and talk about family matters... Sometimes warm conversations can help drive away fear and panic.

You will have to become a psychologist, support group, caregiver and even a nurse for a while. But you, too, are not iron and immortal. Your emotional and physical resources are limited.

So that the illness of a loved one does not break you, never forget about yourself:

  1. Try to hire a nanny or caregiver. It is not necessary to use the services of a person with medical education, if your relative only needs to change underwear, prepare healthy breakfasts and give pills in a timely manner. You can find a man or woman willing to sit with a sick person for a minimum amount while you work. Yes, mom or husband will want you to be near. But try to explain that you need money too. And without work, there will be no finance for the purchase of drugs and regular examinations.
  2. Spend time alone periodically. Take a walk in the park while you go to the pharmacy or the store. Sit on a bench with a book and listen to music. You need loneliness to restore nervous system... You can keep diaries. When you write down all the bad thoughts and negative emotions, it becomes easier to control your words and feelings when dealing with a sick relative. After all, sometimes you want to respond rudely to rudeness or scream in despair: "But when will this end?" Just hide the diary so that no one can find it.
  3. Try to communicate not only with a sick relative. Meet with friends periodically, go to cafes and cinemas. Yes, it's hard for you now, but life does not stop. And if you do not allow yourself small respites and pleasantries, you will burn out.

Dear reader, when your beloved husband, father, mother, sister, brother or friend is sick, it is very difficult to cope with disappointment and bad thoughts. It is difficult to find words that can comfort a person and give him at least a few minutes of happiness. But you have to go through this together. Talk to loved ones, hug and support them. Do not let yourself fall into deep depression, but do not forget about yourself. After all, if you break down, your loved one will be left alone with his grief, fears and a sense of hopelessness.

Whatever one may say, but, unfortunately, sooner or later almost all of us are faced with serious chronic diseases. Of course, some of them are more painful, and some are less, but still, with the appearance of the disease, we have to adapt to life already taking into account our more limited physiological capabilities than before.

There is nothing to argue with: illness is a really serious test, first of all for ourselves, and then for our relatives, friends and acquaintances. As you know, all people react to the illness of their neighbor in different ways. For someone we become an object of compassion and mercy, for someone we evoke condescending pity, and for someone we openly annoy.


Yes, in this context, we have to admit that illness is also one of the most important catalysts for relationships, when it becomes obvious who is our friend and who is not, who is a mature person, and from whom we cannot expect courage and tolerance.

How to behave during illness? How to communicate with others and should you do it at all? Here are some guidelines for those looking to understand these issues.

Chronic illnesses: how to live with illness?

  • Try to calm down as much as possible and remain sober in order to evaluate the behavior of other people more or less objectively.
  • Try to find out more about your disease. Sources can be books, the Internet, radio and video broadcasts. Try not to collect information from casual acquaintances (in clinics, hospitals, on Internet forums). As experience shows, people often additionally intimidate and “cheat” each other (of course, they themselves do not want to). Remember: everyone has their own history of life and, accordingly, the course of the disease. Only listen to useful advice and tips: the name of a competent doctor (it is advisable that the person has personal experience communication with him), the address of the necessary clinic or sanatorium.
  • When making phone or visual contact with friends and good acquaintances, try to communicate on extraneous topics, in addition, do not be indifferent to the life of others, take an interest in their affairs.
  • Stay active in the areas that are available to you. You can read - read, draw - draw, walk (even if slowly) - walk, translate from foreign language- translate, cook or sew - sew and cook. Now the main thing for you should not be the final result, but the intermediate one. Praise yourself for everything you manage to do in one day!
  • Do not completely isolate yourself from the world around you. According to psychologists, social isolation is no less harmful than the notorious smoking. Moreover, even wild animals do not tolerate it ...
  • If you have the opportunity, do not refuse support and help to other sick people. Be attentive to them.
  • Set reasonable and achievable goals for yourself. Give up far-reaching plans, they will now be a psychological ballast for you.
  • Think only of what you can do now, without remembering your former self. Remember: comparisons are irrelevant and even harmful here!
  • Stress exacerbates the condition of any patient. Therefore, try to reduce it: meditate more often, listen to relaxing music (or play the instrument yourself), sing, read something pleasant (poetry or prose), watch good films, embroider, knit, communicate with indoor plants(you can work in the garden if your health allows) and (or) pets, put together pictures from puzzles or look at illustrated albums, sculpt from clay, burn on wood ... In a word, do what you like, but what if honestly, you almost never had time under the same circumstances.
  • Try to laugh more, because laughter prolongs life and improves its quality. Try to perceive at least some of the situations you are experiencing with humor.

The indicator of acceptance is lightness and joy.

Accept, give thanks, create joy and love.
It is very easy to accept the events of your life, your feelings and emotions as an existing fact. This is not difficult if you are aware that your choice led to certain events.
It is not difficult if you realize that these are your feelings and emotions and you already have them. You just have to accept them. Into your own arms.

Accept your illness

Accepting your illness is also very easy. Accept it as an existing fact. If it seems to you that you already accept and do not resist your illness, then this is a mistake. If there is a disease, then there is no acceptance. Acceptance heals.
Accept all your thoughts, words, actions and deeds that led to the disease / problem. Accept all your feelings and emotions, all life events that led to the disease / problem. Accept the disease / problem itself and yourself along with the disease / problem.
It’s very simple. Accept upon existence. We do not break ourselves here, we do not persuade, we do not force to believe in something. There is a disease / problem. It is a fact. It already exists and we accept it.

“I accept all my thoughts, words, actions and deeds that have led ...

I accept all my feelings and emotions that have led….

I accept all the events in my life that have led to….

I accept my illness / problem.

I accept myself as I am now.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. "

Internally, you need to be as relaxed as possible.
In general, adoption is unique in its breadth of reach. It is all-encompassing. You can even accept your own NOT accepting.
when the melancholy and despondency overcame it was necessary to continue to swim. Continue to take. Accept melancholy and discouragement. “I accept my melancholy, accept my despondency. I'm sad. It is a fact. Yes, I'm discouraged. I accept it. " You accept and watch what happens. Something new has appeared, for example, fear, start accepting it.
You can set aside a certain time for adoption, but it is better to take it as the event progresses. Pissed off, accept your anger. Offended, accept your offense. Become totally host. The disease will begin to lose strength, and your strength will grow. Accept. Acceptance is the door behind which is self-love.

How to get well. Doctor's advice

First, about how not to behave in illness. The main factors hindering the patient's recovery are fears and anxiety; laziness; irritability and intolerance; disbelief in their strength and despondency, and finally - stupidity and conceit.

Step 1. Awareness of your illness and acceptance of it in yourself

The main mistake of patients is that the disease is perceived as something separate from them. From such a statement, a style of behavior is born - to cure a disease, cut out or remove a disease, etc. With this approach, success is rare. It is necessary to restore health, then the diseases will go away on their own. It's very easy to understand. If there are diseases, then there is no or little health. If there is health, then there are no diseases. Why chase 20,000 diseases (according to ICD - 10 international classification diseases), it is more important and easier to learn the laws of health to apply them and there will be no diseases. But this is also the difficulty, because the patient will have to understand that the cause of the disease is in the way he thinks, how he lives. So you need to change yourself - and what is it like to accept a proud man who thinks that there are only two opinions: one is mine, and the other is wrong. So - Disease is a way of living your life.

Step 2. Understand why this disease came to me

  1. The disease, as a way to manipulate loved ones, becomes desirable for the patient, and no one will cure it until the patient understands that he is the cause of the disease. Disease can attract love and care; through illness, you can get away from unpleasant responsibilities in the family. For example, a woman does not want to take her child to kindergarten - " My head hurts so much that I can't take my child to kindergarten in the morning, I immediately feel sick and dizzy".
  2. Illness as a way of avoiding responsibility. Example. A complaint came to the school teacher. The next day there was a showdown with the director. In the morning the patient developed such weakness in her legs that she could not walk. She has been in bed for two years now, and no one can cure her. Unfortunately, the husband surrounded the patient with such care that she would definitely never get up. What for? - there is no incentive, everything in the house revolves around and for the patient. She speaks with her husband in a commanding and mentoring tone.
  3. Disease as a way to punish the offender. " I got sick and let them be ashamed, they brought me to such a state that I almost died."- said the woman to her husband after the scandal in the store. He, in" righteous "anger, goes to the store with a showdown. At the same time, option number 1 is played - manipulation of loved ones.
  4. Disease as a way to punish oneself through guilt. The girl's mother died in the village, after the funeral she did not rise left hand... Constant self-accusation - " If I was there, then my mother could live". Was treated by many doctors for humeroscopic periarthrosis, did not help. Recovering occurred only after removing the feeling of guilt.
  5. Illness as the purpose of life. In the absence or loss of the meaning of life, the disease becomes the meaning of existence: going to doctors and a pharmacy, discussing their appointments with friends on the phone or on a bench at the entrance, and so on, fill the time and thoughts of the patient. It is impossible to cure them, since recovery means for a person the loss of the meaning of life. Such patients can only be cured by care. It's like a chainsaw, which lies broken in a closet and no one wants to repair it, but they brought a forest for firewood, then they repaired it in 1 hour and sawed its forest. So a person, having acquired the meaning of life, quickly recovers.
  6. Child's illness as the meaning of a mother's life. If the mother, when carrying a pregnancy, walks with a spiritual attitude of constant concern for the future of the child; or if the mother is afraid to let go of the maturing child, then a paradoxical thing arises - the child is born sick or becomes ill. He cares and can only protect the weak and the sick. The healthy does not need protection, that is, the meaning of the mother's life is lost. Such, if I may say so, "mothers" run from doctor to doctor with their child and, like the devil with incense, run away from the doctor who can really help the child and mother. " God forbid heal"At the same time, the first option is played - manipulation of loved ones. Constantly inspired and shown to the child -" You see how I care about you. " completely subordinate to the will of the mother. This is a variant of the complex inner spiritual flaw of a woman. Unfortunately, this occurs very often. And I feel sorry for these children, ruined by the egoism of the mother.
  7. Illness as a sign of a person's spiritual flaw. For example: allergies are a variant of intolerance and categoricalness, as a sign of pride and conceit. Inguinal hernia available as an installation option " You have to fight for everything in this life". Hypertension - anxiety, a sign of lack of faith. Sexually transmitted diseases - fornication and guilt for it. Uterine fibroids - resentment and claims to a sexual partner. Parkinson's disease is a sign of despondency, and so on.
  8. Disease as a way to stop the fall of man. These diseases are God's craft. For example, multiple sclerosis, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, cancer, leukemia, as well as road traffic accidents and accidents. Only awareness of sin, complete repentance and rejection of the old way of thinking and life will help here. In practice, diseases call a person to spiritual exploits. Rarely does a person take this path, but those who stand up are completely renewed, acquiring a second life.
  9. Diseases resulting from medical intervention or iatrogenic diseases. Remember that there is nothing superfluous in your body, and before you go to the operation, think 1000 times about the consequences. The removed organ can no longer be cured. Other organs will begin to compensate for its work, their functional overload occurs, which disrupts their work. Any operation ends with a scar and adhesive process, this leads to different chains of adaptation with unpredictable consequences. For example: removal of appendicitis can lead over time to the development of prolapse of the right kidney; cholelithiasis; obesity; ectopic pregnancy; difficult to treat dysbiosis. Not all at once and for everyone in different ways, it all depends on the structural features of the organs and the type of tissue response in the body. In short - after removing the organ, you think that you have got rid of the problem? In fact, you have purchased 4-5 times more of them. Of course, if there is a question of life and death, then it is necessary to operate. There are even more problems from illiterate obstetrics for both the child and the mother.
  10. Diseases for a lesson in humility in life. It's all hereditary diseases and also see option 7.
  11. Disease as a way of leaving active life... Man is tired of living. These are strokes with paralysis, cancer, myocardial infarction.
  12. Diseases as a punishment for aggressiveness and anger in a person. These are epidemics infectious diseases... In the Middle Ages, it is plague and smallpox. Nowadays, the flu (from the "Spanish flu" in the first world war more than 20 million people died on the battlefield) and others.
  13. Diseases of children, as a sign of the mother's (parents') lack of love for children. These are nocturnal enuresis, bronchial asthma and other childhood diseases, which can gain a foothold and turn into option 1, indicating a person's infantilism.

One Illness can have many causes. For example: hypertension can be the cause of anxiety (a sign of lack of faith) and aggressiveness and anger (spiritual position - " you have to fight for everything in this world"). And it can be the result of an operation to remove the gallbladder or appendix. A spiritual cause can cause many diseases. For example, anxiety leads a person to hypertension, diabetes mellitus 2 types, hypothyroidism or hyperthyroidism, etc. There is something to think about. If you figured out the causes of your illness, then you make a decision on whether you need the illness. Health is, first of all, spiritual maturity, the ability to take fate into your own hands, responsibility to yourself and others. If you are not ready, it means that you have not learned the lesson of the disease, then stay with it. If you are ready, but you lack spiritual strength, then you need a guide for the first time (like small child you need support to learn to walk) - but here your pride can hinder you. If you are ready, then you have already recovered 50%. Realizing and accepting the cause of your illness is the biggest step towards recovery. If the disease is incurable, then carry it with humility and help others. Many saints had incurable diseases of the body (Seraphim of Sarov, Matrona of Moscow, etc.) as a sign of physical humiliation to suppress pride.

Step 3. Get on the road to recovery, either on your own or with the help of a doctor

Recovering yourself is hard work, when you constantly need to fight with yourself, with your habits and weaknesses. In essence, recovery is the path of rebirth, the path of making yourself new. It's like climbing a mountain. Not to be confused with rebirth, reminiscent of descending from a mountain, when a person loses his skills down to a bestial lifestyle. For example: drug addicts and alcoholics.

Obstacles to recovery

Disbelief, lack of faith and doubt. Such a position does not bring energy to the process and dooms it to failure at the beginning or at the end of the path. Try to start any business without believing in its success - nothing will work, waste your time.

So, the state of your faith is the most important thing for your recovery. No faith, no doubt - don't even start. Very important: patients often substitute the concepts of "I know" and "I believe." So "I know" is a product of the mind (thinking), and "I believe" is a state of your soul, its core. The patient's phrase "if I know, then I will believe" - ​​speaks of a complete lack of understanding of the essence of the process.

Typical examples of the behavior of a non-believing patient:

  • After admission, the patient was given recommendations. The patient, having come home, calls other doctors she knows to hear their opinion on the recommendations. Having come for a second appointment, the patient says that she did not follow the recommendations, because there is an opinion that this will not help. As you can imagine, the treatment for this patient has been discontinued. If you don't believe the doctor, don't go to him! Each doctor makes recommendations based on his experience and knowledge. Therefore, it makes no sense to call other doctors, especially if the treatment method of the attending physician is original or author's, you have to trust.
  • The patient came to the appointment and said that she would not make decisions about starting treatment with the doctor, she would first bypass 5-6 doctors, then decide who she would be treated with. Such patients do not even believe their choice of a doctor, they will ask again, check with their own and others' understanding of the solution to the problem. They easily pass by a doctor who can really help them, since their ideas contradict the doctor's logic.

I have seen a lot of these patients. The same option on the other hand - " Doctor, I have already bypassed 5 doctors, you are the sixth and no one can help me, all are bad, but you, they say, are a magician, one hope is on you". Usually I answer -" I'm even worse"; and I do not treat such patients. Such patients are a typical example of a mixture of disbelief, ingratitude and hypocrisy.